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Descubre un mundo infinito de historias

Escucha y lee

Emanuele M. Barboni Dalla Costa

If until now you have believed that your sensitivity, shyness and impulsiveness have interfered negatively in the development of your relationships, well, it is time to change your perspective.

What you have in your holster is the most powerful weapon of seduction, attraction and communication in the world. The bad news is that you have never learned how to properly manage all the power that runs through your veins and is called “emotion”. In short, you have been an ‘emotional kamikaze’ until now. 

Think for a moment: how many opportunities have you wasted because of your shyness? How many toads have you swallowed because you were unable to respond in kind? How many times have you felt blocked and unable to handle a dialogue properly? How much more time are you going to waste in the limbo of the “unspoken”, of inner suffering, of regret with no possibility of appeal?

We are all in search of the ‘Lost Emotion’ and you, as a sensitive being, have a stratospheric advantage over the rest of the world. This will allow you to achieve personal satisfaction, higher self-esteem and more satisfying and lasting relationships. The point is that you don’t know this yet.

The good news is that thanks to this manual you will be able to see with new eyes the enormous potential that lies within you. A potential you didn’t even think you had. 

Thanks to the “mechanism” explained in this book, you will learn how to channel your impulses and emotions in the correct way, transforming what you thought was your “factory defect” into a skill capable of radically changing, immediately and without any effort, the way you communicate in sentimental, friendship, work and family relationships.

Because remember that every relationship failure is a communication failure. 

If, up to now, your sensitivity has created more disasters than opportunities, if your relationships are poor because you struggle to communicate your inner self in the right way, if you want to know the secret to transform what you thought was your worst flaw into an irresistible tool for seduction and attraction, don’t hesitate. 

Continue reading this book.

CONTENTS

THE EMOTIONAL KAMIKAZE

About the Author

In Search of Lost Emotion

Breaking the Schema

The Primordial Need to Give and Receive Emotions

Doesn’t “I Love You” Mean Anything?

Just One Word: Transformation

The Power of the Word

You Have Never Communicated Truly Emotionally

You Think and You Say

Subconscious Penetration

Communication and Targets

Only if You Can Manage Emotions Can You Convey Them

Forgetting Impulsivity to Embrace Reflection

Sparking Emotional Memories Through Stories

The Mechanism. What You Say is not What You Think

The Misconceptions of the Sensitive and Emotional Man

Why We All Fear Approach

Shyness is Often an Excuse Not to Act

Shame: An Emotion Difficult to Control

Mental Approach, Fear and Benefits of Communicating with Emotions

Zero to One Hundred (with Handbrake Pulled)

Using Sensitivity to Stand Out

Being Sensitive is a ‘Plus’ (which has to be properly managed)

Logical and Metaphorical Language

Re-Learning to Communicate

Orienting the Emotional Spyglass

Emotional Discussion Topics

Deep Talk

How to Develop a Quality Dialogue

A Few Final Tips

Conclusions

PublishDrive

Communicating to Seduce, Engage and Excite

The Emotional Kamikaze: How to Turn Your Sensitivity into Warm "Communicative Energy" to Excel in Relationships

“Where there is feeling there can be no logic. That would be a paradox, wouldn’t it? This, in a nutshell, is why men and women do not understand each other. In reality, the ‘unspoken’ or ‘implied’ is the basis of communication, and therefore also of seduction and the maintenance of relationships”.

Why do men and women not understand each other? Why do conflicts and misunderstandings arise? Is it possible to generate more authentic and emotional connections with others?

In this short and valuable essay, the theme of the difficulty of communication between men and women is addressed. It contains techniques and solutions for finding a ‘common code’ between the two sexes: the holy grail of all success in the sentimental sphere.

Why Men and Women Don’t Understand Each Other: How to Find a Common Code

“Seduction is an ongoing process that does not end in the first few months but must continue throughout the relationship”.

In this essay, the topic of seduction is treated in a new way. The assumption is that a partner must be attracted to him or her even after the initial phase. In order to ensure continuity in the story, it is necessary to maintain lively communication that can guarantee positive emotional involvement. What can we do, then, to achieve long-lasting and satisfying relationships? A good place to start is with advanced dialogue skills in order to use your sensitivity to gently penetrate your partner’s mind. This book, full of ideas and reflections, will accompany you in the development of new skills (from emotional communication to relational storytelling) to improve your life as a couple and, more generally, the way you relate to the world.

Seduction is Conversation: Engaging with Words

A valuable book of questions and answers born with the hope of clarifying many points concerning the intimate relationship you have with yourself and with others.

A non-exhaustive list of some of the questions and answers in the book:

GENERATE ATTRACTION
How do you overcome shyness with girls?
What's the first thing women look at in a man?
What makes a person interesting and attractive?
What's your favorite way to show someone you care?
Can you recommend daily exercises I can do to improve my charisma and be more confident?
Why do people talk even when they don't know the topic being talked about?

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS
What can we do to limit misunderstandings in relationships?
How to get over unrequited love?
If a girl writes to a guy all day, does that mean she's in love?
The girl I have a crush on says she likes me but won't commit to a relationship. What do I do?
How can I "destroy" an idealized love?
How to manage a relationship with a colleague?
What to do if you are in love with a girl, but haven't opened up to her for many years?
What does it mean if someone who loves you ignores you and won't tell you why?
What's one "man problem" that women wouldn't understand?

FIRST DATE
What do you think would be the ideal place for a first date?
How not to look "desperate" on a first date
How to impress a girl on a first date?
What not to do on a first date?
What to say to a girl after a first date?
What should you know before you kiss someone?
Does there have to be physical contact on the first date?

BETTER CONVERSATIONS
What does a good conversation consist of?
What is the best way to start an online conversation?
How do you start a conversation?
How can you keep the level of conversation up?
What's the best way to get out of a conversation where there's no end in sight?
How can I improve my public speaking skills?

BREAKING UP AND TAKING BACK
I want to break up with my girlfriend. What are the best ways to do that?
My boyfriend and I have picked up and broken up several times. How do I know this is a permanent goodbye?
What does it mean if she likes me a lot but wants to be alone for a while?
Is love there when you miss your partner?
Can true love be at first sight?
Why do some people when they break up immediately look for another relationship?

OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF TALKING TO PEOPLE
I'm a boring person, how can I change?
How to deal with people who only talk about themselves?
Why is it that when you try to speak or enter a conversation, others interrupt you and talk over you?
What to do when you have difficulty talking to people?

Answers on Love, Relationships and Emotional Communication

Did you know that the lower part of your body is governed by the unconscious and is able to send hundreds of messages into the world in a completely unconscious way?

Have you ever wondered how your head movements, hand gestures, glances and facial expressions are interpreted subliminally by others?

Would you like to know the secrets of making a good first impression on a romantic date, at a job interview or when presenting your project or idea to the public?

If you have always been curious about this topic and would like to broaden your knowledge in the field of communication, here is an ‘honest’ guide to interpreting body language in everyday life.

Learning to recognise and interpret our own and other people’s body language is a skill that can be crucial at work, in seduction and more generally in relationships with others.

Noticing the small mistakes you have always made will give you a competitive ‘edge’ and radically improve your image in the eyes of others.

It will also enable you to get to know yourself better and to establish deeper relationships with colleagues, partners and friends.

Watch Her Feet: A Guide To Body Language In Relationships

An invaluable text written by a specialized communication coach intended for all those who wish to perfect their communication skills within the couple, during seduction and maintenance of relationships.

This book represents the result of more than ten years of study and insight into the topic of communication applied to improving romantic relationships.

Table of Contents:

1. COMMUNICATING TO SEDUCE, ENGAGE AND EXCITE IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

Communicate to Seduce, Engage and Excite

Quality of Relationships and Quality of Life

Technology Has Caught Us Unawares

The Boiling Point

Failure is Always Easier

The Responsibility is Only Yours

Communicating is a Real Casino

Being Alone Sucks

You Are A Diamond

It All Depends On How You Communicate

I don't think you'll fuck more (or maybe you will)

The Great Illusion of "Seduction"

What Other Coaches Don't Tell You

Interpreting Communicative Contexts

But I Can't Communicate Well...

The Discomfort of Feeling "Out of Place"

Ever heard of Social Intelligence?

The Story of Philip, Perennially in the Friendship Zone

In Love, the Fugitive Wins?

Always Identify Communicative Objectives

Expectations Are for Children

Everything seems easy at first...

You Create Your Relational Destiny

Feeling Inadequate? Maybe You're Missing A Block

The "Can Do" and the "Nerd".

No Opportunities? Create them, Don't Make Excuses Anymore

Making Love With the Mind Before the Body

Don't Be Afraid of Making a Fool of Yourself

You Have Your Whole Life To Improve

Prince Charming Doesn't Exist ... and The Princess is Bipolar

I Have Bad News: You Are Never Yourself

But it's the shyness that gets me...

2.INSIGHTS

The 6 things you CANNOT control in a relationship

Is Love A Choice?

How to Overcome Unrequited Love

Communication - or Quality or Silence

The Importance of Recognizing Emotions

Always be respected, even in Chat

Manage Emotions, Don't Bury Them!

Learning to Say No, Feelings of Guilt and Self-Image

Love in the Time of Tinder - Superficiality, Idealization, Immaturity and Self-Image

What are the 5 wounds of the inner child within us?

How to Win an Argument (Without Making a Slaughter)

Dangerous Consequences of Communicating Emotions Quietly

Possessiveness, Being Sexy and Insecurity

Use Style and Sensitivity to Stand Out from the Competition

Being Sensitive is a 'Plus' (which must be managed well)

You have to Give Authentic Emotions to Receive Quality Emotions