The Dad Edge Podcast

Why Being Too Good at Everything Quietly Hurts Your Kids (The Untouchable Hero) featuring Brandon WebbIn this episode, I sit down with Brandon Webb — Navy SEAL, former head instructor of the Navy SEAL Sniper Course, New York Times bestselling author of twelve books, and now the author of a brand new parenting book called Puddle Jumpers, releasing May 12th. Brandon's story starts where most men's don't — kicked off the family sailboat at 16 in the South Pacific after a blowup with his dad, finding a boat headed to Hawaii, and navigating his way into the Navy and eventually SEAL Team Three. But what makes this conversation extraordinary is watching a man who trained the most elite warriors on the planet — including some of the legends you already know — apply that same performance psychology to raising his three kids. We dig into what performance psychology actually is, why the sniper school's failure rate dropped to nearly zero when they stopped pointing out mistakes and started painting the picture of what to do instead, and how Brandon built that same positive reinforcement framework into how he parents. We also get into the moment his daughter humbled him while he was writing Puddle Jumpers — telling him that because he was their untouchable Navy SEAL hero, she never felt like it was okay to fail. We swap shoplifting stories, talk about the power of getting to the why before you drop the hammer, why boys between 12 and 15 are standing at a fork in the road that can go either way, and why asking better questions on a one on one trip unlocks conversations that would never happen face to face at home. Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Getting kicked off a sailboat at 16 in the South Pacific — and what his dad actually taught him [3:21] From deckhand at 13 to SEAL Team Three — and the book that made him think he could do it [7:29] Class 215 — graduating with Mike Ritland and serving with Eric Davis [9:20] Brandon's full background — SEAL, sniper instructor, NYT bestselling author, and now Puddle Jumpers [11:12] Why the book is called Puddle Jumpers — the mud puddle moment that became a philosophy [13:28] What performance psychology actually is — and why Brandon integrated it into the sniper program [17:22] The three pillars: mental rehearsal, self-talk, and positive reinforcement versus negative reinforcement [18:41] Why saying "stop flinching" programs failure — and what to say instead [21:17] The sniper school failure rate dropped to near zero — and what that taught him about his own kids [22:26] Why Brandon left the SEALs at his peak — and what the broken families around him told him about his own future [27:23] Consequences without the belt — wall squats, push ups, and eventually the iPhone [29:52] Owning your mistakes as a parent builds more credibility than never making them [33:05] What made him write a parenting book — his kids impressing people at Harvard Business School [34:19] Don't come home with a wallet full of money and a house full of strangers — the billionaire with three kids in addiction [37:01] The 12 to 15 fork in the road — why boys in that liminal space need a present, intentional dad [39:23] The seventh grade spiral — selling pot gummies, ordering Uber Eats to the principal's office, and what was really going on underneath [41:27] Ask why seven times — and the teacher who publicly humiliated his son and started the whole thing [43:42] Pull him out, take his side, change the environment — and the coach's email that said everything [44:33] His daughter's answer when he asked what he'd done differently — and why being the untouchable SEAL hero was actually a problem [48:42] Shoplifting, a Sonic parking lot, and the real reason his son did it — peer pressure and not knowing who his friends were [54:11] Kids open up in cars, on bikes, on walks — never face to face [54:41] One on one trips every year — and the two questions at dinner in New York that lasted two and a half hours [58:40] What his daughter said in Lisbon — and why creating a home they want to come back to is one of the most underrated parenting moves Five Key Takeaways 1. Stop pointing out mistakes and start painting the picture of what to do instead. Telling a kid what not to do programs them for failure. Tell them where to put their attention — not what to avoid. 2. Owning your mistakes as a parent isn't weakness — it's the most credible thing you can do. Your kids will model ownership and accountability because they watched you do it first. 3. Boys between 12 and 15 are at a fork in the road. If they don't feel supported during that season, you can push them in a direction that takes years to correct. Get to the why before you drop the hammer. 4. Being the untouchable hero in your kid's life can quietly teach them that failing isn't okay. Share your struggles. It gives them permission to have their own. 5. The quality of your relationship with your kids depends on the quality of the questions you ask. "How was your day" is a dead end. Ask something real — and ask it in a car, on a walk, or somewhere that takes the pressure off. Links & Resources • Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom • Puddle Jumpers by Brandon Webb — releases May 12th: Available on Amazon • Brandon Webb's website and all socials: https://brandontylerwebb.com • Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1473): https://thedadedge.com/1473 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the most dangerous thing you can do as a dad is be so good at everything that your kids are afraid to fail in front of you. Brandon Webb trained the most elite warriors in the world. He wrote twelve books. He sailed across the South Pacific at 16. And his daughter had to look him in the eye and tell him that his greatness made her feel like failure wasn't allowed. That's the lesson. Not the SEALs. Not the snipers. The puddle jumper — the kid who jumps in the mud because he hasn't been told yet that he shouldn't. Raise more of those. Go out and live legendary.

1489|1 h 6 min

Is College Actually Worth It For Your Kids? (The Seventh Grade Math Test to Decide) featuring Thomas CaleelIn this episode, I sit down with Thomas Caleel — former Director of MBA Admissions at the Wharton School, founder of Admittedly, and one of the most clear-eyed voices in the college admissions space. This one is personal — I've got an 18-year-old headed to University of Arkansas in four months, and a sixth grader whose decisions today will quietly shape where he ends up ten years from now. Thomas opens the black box of college admissions and explains what's actually changed, what most parents are getting wrong, and what admissions officers are really looking for. The shift from well-rounded candidates to "vertical spikes" of deep passion and genuine interest is one of those things that sounds simple but changes everything about how you should be thinking about your kid's path right now. We talk about the right time to start, why the seventh-grade math assessment quietly matters more than most parents realize, how doing fewer things with real intentionality is more powerful than stacking clubs and activities, and why your child's college essay should tell their story — not yours. We also get into the financial reality most parents aren't prepared for — new federal loan caps, how to negotiate financial aid after admission, what Juno is and why it matters, and why sending your kid to a low-tier private college that costs $50,000 a year is something Thomas calls criminal. And he gives a refreshingly honest answer to whether college is actually worth it. Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Larry's 18-year-old is leaving for University of Arkansas — and Thomas's son is heading to NYU [2:45] When change goes according to plan — and why it hits harder than you expect [4:45] What most parents are missing — the pressure cooker, the doom race, and why more is not always more [5:56] Why admissions is a black box — and why bad information fills that vacuum [7:23] Thomas's background — former Director of MBA Admissions at Wharton, 20 years shaping admissions strategy globally [9:05] How college admissions has changed — from well-rounded candidates to vertical spikes of deep passion [10:49] Why schools now prioritize socioeconomic diversity — and what full ride programs actually look like [11:37] What the internet did to admissions — 50,000 applicants where there used to be 8,000, and rates under 3% at Yale [12:00] Do fewer things intentionally and well — the sneakerhead who got into Stanford [15:18] Why volunteering doesn't help anymore if your kid doesn't actually care about it [17:31] How grit, initiative, and unglamorous jobs stand out just as much as expensive summer programs [19:29] The most common question Thomas hears — when should we start? [19:51] The seventh-grade math assessment that quietly determines whether your kid can pursue STEM majors [22:41] Middle school is for exploration — you don't need to pick a direction, just stay warm on the fundamentals [24:11] What universities are really asking — not what do you want to do with your life, but what are you curious about right now [24:47] Why your kid won't tell you the truth — and why a neutral third party changes everything [29:47] How to have a real conversation with your kid about what they actually want [30:36] Listening without judgment — the parent who almost killed their child's essay by refusing to let them tell their real story [33:06] How to handle the "I want to study dance" conversation — without crushing them [35:45] Is college a scam? Thomas's honest, nuanced answer — and why the lottery ticket mentality is dangerous [37:20] Why low-tier private colleges charging $50,000 a year are, in his words, criminal [40:38] What's changed in the political arena — new federal loan caps and what they mean for families [41:51] Why the ROI conversation has to happen before you commit to a school [44:08] How to negotiate financial aid after you've been admitted — and why schools will sometimes find money [45:03] Juno — the collective bargaining platform that negotiates lower interest rates on student loans [48:01] What Admittedly is — former admissions officers, group coaching, weekly office hours, and accessible pricing Five Key Takeaways 1. Admissions has shifted from well-rounded to deeply interesting. A kid who does one thing with real passion and depth will stand out over a kid who stacks clubs and activities to check boxes. 2. The seventh-grade math assessment quietly shapes whether your kid can pursue the majors they want. Start paying attention earlier than you think you need to. 3. Your child's essay needs to tell their story — not your version of their story. Listen without judgment and let them lead. 4. The financial conversation has to happen early and honestly. With new federal loan caps and rising tuition, the ROI of each school choice matters more than ever. 5. College is not a binary decision. It can be great, but it's not the right path for everyone. Know your child, know their goals, and help them build the path that actually fits — not the one that looks right from the outside. Links & Resources • Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom • Admittedly website: https://admittedly.co • Admittedly on Instagram and TikTok: @admittedly.co • Juno student loan platform: https://joinjuno.com • Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1467): https://thedadedge.com/1467 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the decisions your kid makes in middle school are already shaping where they'll end up — and most parents don't find that out until it's too late to do anything about it. Thomas Caleel has sat inside the room where these decisions get made. He knows what gets someone in and what gets them passed over. And the good news is that none of it requires privilege, expensive programs, or a perfect resume. It requires knowing your kid, helping them tell their real story, and starting the right conversations while there's still time to matter. If your kid is anywhere from sixth grade to senior year, this episode is required listening. Go out and live legendary.

1483|55 min

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