#784: Dr. Becky Kennedy — Parenting Strategies for Raising Resilient Kids, Plus Word-for-Word Scripts for Repairing Relationships, Setting Boundaries, and More

Dr. Becky Kennedy is the founder and CEO of Good Inside, a parenting movement that overturns a lot of conventional, modern parenting practices to empower parents to become sturdy, confident leaders and raise sturdy, confident kids. She is the author of the bestselling book Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, a chart-topping podcast, a TED talk with nearly 4 million views on the power of repair, and an upcoming children’s book, That’s My Truck! A Good Inside Story About Hitting.

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Timestamps:

[00:00] Who is Dr. Becky Kennedy?

[06:49] The power of repair.

[09:44] “It’s never your fault when I yell at you.”

[13:49] What does it mean to be a “good” parent?

[15:26] Activating curiosity over judgment.

[18:27] Alternatives to saying “Good job” as a confidence builder.

[23:16] Making kids happy vs. building capability.

[26:44] A pilot metaphor for sturdy leadership.

[31:56] Role confusion.

[34:30] Defining boundaries.

[38:44] How parenting becomes a two-way mirror for growth.

[43:46] The MGI (Most Generous Interpretation) approach.

[46:29] Biggest challenges in parenting.

[50:29] Recommended reading for someone with kids in their life.

[55:49] Advisable prerequisites for singles who aim to build a family.

[59:55] Setting boundaries with grandparents and dealing with different parenting styles.

[01:05:18] Handling frustration when a child is pushing your buttons.

[01:13:35] Lessons learned from working with eating disorders.

[01:17:03] Managing troublemaker behavior.

[01:21:14] Bad influence intervention.

[01:26:28] Cultivating resilience in “deeply feeling” kids (DFKs).

[01:32:35] The trials and errors that birthed Good Inside.

[01:36:30] “Our words are not our wishes. Our words are our fears.”

[01:43:44] Billboard messages and mantras.

[01:51:37] Fan-favorite scripts on saying no, boundaries, and repair.

[01:54:52] The tennis court metaphor for boundaries.

[01:59:22] Resources and parting thoughts.

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