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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

What truth about the relationship have you been ignoring?
 
What makes that truth hard for you to accept?
 
Today, Jay opens up about one of the hardest things we go through, trying to get over someone we once loved. He reminds us that healing isn’t about pretending we’re okay or trying to move on too quickly. It’s about realizing that what we often miss isn’t the person themselves, but how we felt when we were with them: seen, loved, and alive. Jay gently walks us through why breakups hurt so deeply, how our minds are built for connection, and why finding closure really starts with reconnecting to ourselves.
 
Jay also shares how to stop replaying the past and start finding your rhythm again. He reminds us that healing isn’t about erasing the love, it’s about learning from it. You don’t need to have it all figured out today, you just need to take one small step back toward yourself. Because the real journey after a breakup isn’t about getting over someone else, it’s about remembering who you were before them, and discovering who you’re becoming next.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Stop Romanticizing the Past
 
How to Let Go When You Still Miss Them
 
How to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakup
 
How to Move On Without Losing Yourself
 
How to Remember You Were Enough All Along
 
You are not broken for still feeling; you are human for still caring. One day, the memories that hurt will simply remind you of how far you’ve come. Keep showing up for yourself, because the love you’re searching for begins with you.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:53 The Heartbreak After the Breakup
 
01:24 What to Do When You Can't Get Over Your Ex
 
05:07 Why Do Breakups Hurt So Bad?
 
07:52 The Stories You Replay Are Keeping You Stuck
 
08:39 Myth #1: Time Doesn’t Heal Everything
 
10:16 Myth #2: Why Closure Isn’t the Answer
 
13:12 Myth #3: Moving On Doesn’t Mean You Didn’t Care
 
15:12 Myth #4: Why Getting Back Together Won’t Fix It
 
17:26 Step #1: The First Step to Real Healing
 
19:12 Step #2: It’s Okay Not to Be Okay!
 
20:05 Step #3: Rebuild the Rituals That Ground You
 
21:14 Step #4: Ask Better Questions to Help You Grow
 
22:37 Step #5: Turn Your Pain Into Purpose
 
24:02 What to Do When You Fall Back

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How to Move On When You Still Miss Your Ex (4 Hard Truths That Will FINALLY Set You Free)

Have you been feeling anxious lately?
 
Do you notice when your mind starts to spiral?
 
Jay welcomes back his good friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabrielle Bernstein for a deep and inspiring conversation about true inner healing. Together, they unpack Gabby’s latest book, Self-Help, which reimagines Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) as a practice anyone can bring into their daily life. Gabby shares how the parts of us we often judge, the anxious part, the perfectionist, the people-pleaser, the one who needs control, aren’t our enemies. They’re parts that have been trying to protect us, even if they sometimes get in the way.
 
As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Gabby unpack why so many of us get caught in cycles of burnout, self-criticism, and emotional disconnection. Gabby shares her simple four-step “check-in” practice, a way to pause, look inward, and start building a kinder relationship with ourselves. Through this process, she explains, we can start to recognize our patterns, meet them with compassion and find peace even in the midst of life’s noise.
 
Together, they unpack powerful questions we can all relate to: Why is it easier to comfort others than ourselves? Could our inner critic actually be trying to protect us? And how can we set boundaries without losing our empathy or warmth?
 
In this interview, you'll learn:
 
How to Befriend Every Part of Yourself
 
How to Recognize Your Inner Protectors
 
How to Heal Through Compassion, Not Control
 
How to Calm Your Inner Critic
 
How to Create Boundaries Without Guilt
 
How to Self-Soothe When You Feel Triggered
 
Healing doesn’t mean fixing what’s broken, it means learning to see every part of yourself with compassion and curiosity. The parts of you that once felt heavy or hard to love are often the same ones that carried you through the toughest moments. 
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
03:29 What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy?
 
06:00 Healing Deep Trauma Through IFS
 
08:38 Where Real Healing From Trauma Begins
 
10:17 Blending Therapy with Spiritual Connection
 
13:38 Strengthen Your Own Spiritual Foundation
 
16:57 The Four-Step Self Check-In Practice
 
20:32 The Journey Toward Feeling Truly Great
 
25:39 Finding Peace Without External Validation
 
26:46 We All Have An Inner Spiritual Power
 
31:00 Seeing Self-Judgment as a Form of Protection
 
33:40 Stop Being So Hard on Yourself
 
36:24 Connecting with the Parts That Protect You
 
41:45 Why Facing Yourself Feels So Hard
 
47:33 Healing Starts When You Do the Work
 
49:54 The Power of Forgiving Yourself 
 
55:57 Every Part of You Serves a Purpose
 
57:46 What Changes When You Befriend Your Inner Parts
 
59:00 The Truth About High Performers and Inner Peace
 
01:01:45 How to Set Boundaries with Love and Clarity
 
01:08:47 Gabby on Final Five 
 
Episode Resources:
 
Gabrielle Bernstein | Website
 
Gabrielle Bernstein | TikTok
 
Gabrielle Bernstein | Instagram
 
Gabrielle Bernstein | Facebook
 
Gabrielle Bernstein | YouTube
 
Dear Gabby
 
Self Help: This Is Your Chance to Change Your Life
 
Gabby's 21-day Manifesting Challenge

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Gabrielle Bernstein: The Simple 4-Step Method to Heal Anxiety, Stop Overthinking, and Stop People-Pleasing for Good

Do you believe the universe sends us signs?
 
Have you ever noticed a pattern that felt meaningful?
 
Today, Jay welcomes back psychic medium and bestselling author Laura Lynne Jackson for another heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about what it really means to live a guided life. Laura introduces the idea of a “team of light,” a loving energy made up of God, spirit guides, and loved ones who’ve passed on, all working together behind the scenes to help us find clarity and purpose. Laura reminds us that those small signs and coincidences we tend to overlook are actually gentle messages of love, nudging us toward peace, meaning, and connection.
 
Together, Jay and Laura explore how to tell the difference between the loud voice of fear and the quiet, steady voice of intuition. They talk about how fear can sometimes sound logical, how doubt sneaks in when we’re trying to trust ourselves, and why tuning in to that deeper inner knowing can transform the way we move through life. Jay opens up about moments when he’s felt guided and protected, sharing powerful examples of how trusting what we can’t always see can lead to the most meaningful outcomes.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition
 
How to Trust the Guidance You Receive
 
How to Quiet the Monkey Mind
 
How to Strengthen Your Spiritual Connection Every Day
 
How to Turn Coincidences into Clarity
 
How to Use Intuition to Make Better Decisions
 
Life often speaks in whispers before we’re ready to listen. The signs, the coincidences, those gentle nudges, they’re all reminders that we’re never really walking alone. When we slow down, take a breath, and learn to trust that quiet pull within, the path ahead starts to reveal itself with more ease, clarity, and purpose.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. 
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
01:23 Trust the Signs That Guide You
 
03:24 Meet Your Team of Light
 
06:15 The Energy You Bring into the World
 
10:47 How to Open Up to Guidance
 
15:13 When You Feel Lost, Ask to Be Led
 
22:36 Telling the Difference Between Thoughts and Intuition
 
25:41 Learning to Trust Your Inner Voice
 
28:09 Calming the Noise of Negative Thoughts
 
35:16 Finding Your State of Connection
 
39:44 Receiving Sudden Downloads of Insight
 
45:19 Signs Are Not Answers, They’re Reassurance
 
51:04 You’re Only in Competition with Yourself
 
59:23 How Connection Helps Us Heal from Grief
 
01:03:08 Why Self-Belief Matters More Than Validation
 
01:05:24 Understanding the Language of Signs vs. Living Guided
 
01:08:15 The Power of Simple Acts of Kindness
 
01:15:51 Why Guidance Doesn’t Always Arrive Right Away
 
01:18:28 Creating Space to Reflect and Realign
 
Episode Resources:
 
Laura Lynne Jackson | Website
 
Laura Lynne Jackson | TikTok
 
Laura Lynne Jackson | Instagram
 
Laura Lynne Jackson | Facebook
 
Guided: The Secret Path to an Illuminated Life (The Path of Light Series)

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Psychic Medium Laura Lynne Jackson: 3 Signs From the Universe You Have Been Missing (The Answers Are Right in Front of You!)

Today, Jay and Radhi explore why it feels like so many men are losing touch with real friendships, and the quiet epidemic of loneliness that often goes unnoticed. Jay shares surprising research showing that more men than ever report having few or no close friends and opens up about his own journey of maintaining meaningful male friendships across continents. Together, he and Radhi explore how cultural conditioning and social expectations have shaped the way men connect, often through shared activities rather than emotional honesty, and why vulnerability can still feel risky for so many.
 
Through humor and genuine reflection, Jay and Radhi invite us to rethink what friendship really means, how we can create spaces of emotional safety, and build communities that feel like home. Jay reminds us that friendship isn’t innate; it’s something we grow into through practice, vulnerability, and care.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Build Real Male Friendships
 
How to Be Vulnerable Without Fear
 
How to Recognize When You’re Lonely
 
How to Find Friends Who Match Your Energy
 
How to Open Up Emotionally in Conversations
 
Friendships don’t just happen; they grow through intention and care. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, take one step today, send that message, plan that coffee, open up a little more than usual. The courage to reach out might be exactly what someone else has been waiting for too.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:52 Why Do So Many Men Feel Lonely?
 
03:41 The Power of Male Vulnerability
 
06:58 Rethinking the Alpha Male Mindset
 
12:06 There’s No Growth Without Vulnerability
 
16:06 Men Need Friendship Dates Too!
 
21:35 Do You Truly Feel Seen?
 
25:33 How Loneliness Impacts Your Health
 
28:22 Why Women Often Build Stronger Social Circles
 
31:35 Learning How to Be a Better Friend
 
Episode Resources:
 
Radhi Devlukia | Website
 
Radhi Devlukia | YouTube
 
Radhi Devlukia | Instagram
 
Radhi Devlukia | Facebook
 
Radhi Devlukia | TikTok
 
Joyfull
 
A Really Good Cry

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Jay & Radhi Talk About Why Men Feel So Lonely

What’s one small step you can take right now to break the cycle you’re stuck in?
 
 
 
Today, Jay shares a simple, science-backed method to help you overcome laziness, distraction, and burnout by focusing on consistency instead of motivation. Rather than waiting for the perfect moment or a burst of inspiration, Jay explains how lowering the bar, creating rituals, and going on a dopamine detox can help you rebuild discipline and self-trust, one small action at a time.
 
 
 
It’s not about working harder or chasing perfection, but about starting smaller and showing up consistently. Jay explains how to protect your focus, rewire your reward system, and break the patterns that keep you stuck. Over time, these tiny shifts compound into real transformation, helping you feel more grounded, confident, and in control.
 
 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn: 
 
How to Start When You Feel Stuck
 
How to Build Rituals That Replace Willpower
 
How to Break Free from the Dopamine Addiction Cycle
 
How to Embrace Boredom and Reclaim Focus
 
How to End Each Day with Progress, Not Pressure
 
 
 
Change doesn’t come from motivation. It comes from momentum. When you choose to start small, stay consistent, and keep your promises to yourself, discipline becomes second nature.
 
 
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty. 
 
 
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
 
 
 
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 
 
 
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Introduction
 
0:57 Lower Your Expectations 
 
05:36 Build A Ritual, Not A Routine
 
07:42 24 Hour Dopamine Detox 
 
10:58 Make Bad Habits Hard To Do
 
13:13 Be Bored For 10 Minutes A Day
 
15:10 Reward Effort, Not Results
 
17:24 Turn Your Phone Off For 60 Minutes 
 
18:14 You Can Do Anything for 5 Minutes!
 
21:15 End Your Day With the 3 Minute Review

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Feeling Lazy or Unmotivated? (Do THIS 5-Minute Rule to Build Discipline & Take Action NOW!)

How do you know if someone’s really right for you?
 
 
 
Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong?
 
 
 
Today, Jay brings together four of today’s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn’t about finding “the one,” but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally.
 
 
 
Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real.
 
 
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Build Confidence Through Body Language
 
How to Date Without Burning Out
 
How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
 
How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One
 
How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People
 
How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love
 
 
 
Love isn’t something that happens by accident, it’s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve.
 
 
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty.
 
 
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
 
 
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:50 The Flirtation Signals You’re Missing
 
09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes
 
13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle 
 
16:37 You Shouldn’t Rush Real Love
 
21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships
 
22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life
 
24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People? 
 
26:01 The Real Reason You’re Struggling to Find a Partner
 
27:49 Are Your Standards Too High?
 
29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost?
 
30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want
 
32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship’s Future

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Jays Must Listens: You’re Approaching Dating Wrong! (Use THIS Blueprint to Attract the RIGHT Person) Ft. Vanessa Van Edwards & Jillian Turecki

Do you believe the brain can be trained to manifest?
 
Do you think it’s more about mindset or action?
 
Today, Jay sits down with neuroscientist and creator Emily McDonald to explore how rewiring your brain can transform every area of your life. Emily shares how understanding the science behind your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can help you break free from cycles of fear, self-doubt, and procrastination. She explains that the brain’s natural instinct is to keep you safe, not help you grow, which is why so many people feel stuck even when they’re trying to move forward. Through relatable examples and neuroscience-backed tools, Emily reveals how awareness, intention, and identity shifts can create real and lasting change.
 
Jay and Emily dive into the psychology of motivation, discussing why we often delay the things we care about most and how “cheap dopamine” from social media and instant gratification keeps us from deeper fulfillment. Emily explains how to retrain your brain to crave long-term rewards, not quick hits of pleasure, and how to use self-compassion and small wins to build momentum. Together, she and Jay unpack the science of manifestation, why it’s not about wishing for things to happen but about wiring your brain to become a match for the life you want.
 
In this interview, you'll learn:
 
How to Rewire Your Brain for Change
 
How to Break Free from Feeling Stuck
 
How to Overcome Fear of Success
 
How to Stop Relying on Cheap Dopamine
 
How to Build Motivation Through Self-Reward
 
How to Attract Healthy Love by Becoming a Match for It
 
True transformation doesn’t happen overnight, it begins the moment you decide to understand yourself more deeply. When you learn how your mind works, you realize that every setback, fear, and doubt isn’t a failure, it’s simply your brain trying to protect you.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. 
 
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
01:00 Relationships Begin with Intention
 
02:39 When Your Identity Keeps You Stuck
 
05:42 The Power of the Labels You Use
 
08:17 Are You Afraid of Being Seen?
 
10:08 Label the Fears Holding You Back
 
12:12 Play Out Every Fear to the End
 
13:48 Stop Chasing Cheap Dopamine!
 
17:31 3 Ways to Naturally Boost Dopamine
 
22:29 The Power of Having Something to Look Forward To
 
25:22 The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything
 
27:00 Why Desperation Blocks Success
 
31:29 Discovering Your Deepest Core Value
 
32:56 The Power of Understanding Your Own Brain
 
39:41 Surround Yourself with Expansive Minds
 
43:07 The 3-Step Science Backed Manifestation Tool
 
47:39 Do You Believe in Divine Timing?
 
49:09 Turning Jealousy into Inspiration
 
51:51 Worthiness Begins with Self-Love
 
56:13 How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs
 
01:02:14 What Are You Building Within Yourself?
 
01:04:19 Let Go of the Need for Approval
 
01:09:53 Love Finds You When You Least Expect It
 
01:15:51 Emily on Final Five
 
Episode Resources:
 
Emily McDonald | Website
 
Emily McDonald | YouTube
 
Emily McDonald | Instagram
 
Emily McDonald | TikTok
 
Emily McDonald | LinkedIn

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Neuroscientist Emily McDonald: #1 Science-Based Hack to Rewire Your Brain to ACTUALLY Manifest the Life You Want

In this first episode of On Purpose with Radhi, Jay opens up a conversation many of us have faced but rarely unpack, being asked, “When are you having kids?” What seems like a casual question often carries a weight that touches on biology, cultural expectations, financial realities, and deeply personal struggles. Together, Jay and Radhi peel back the layers of why this question can feel so triggering, especially for women, and why the assumptions behind it often miss the heart of the matter.
 
They explore how family pressure, societal timelines, and even social media comparisons can make people feel like they’re “behind,” while statistics actually show that having children later in life has become the norm. From the challenges of IVF and miscarriages to the fear of balancing career and motherhood, Jay and Radhi shed light on the unspoken realities couples quietly carry. They remind us that true preparation for parenthood isn’t about perfect timing, it’s about awareness, acceptance, and readiness for change. 
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Handle Pressure About Having Kids
 
How to Prepare for the Real Changes of Parenthood
 
How to Know if You’re Ready for Children
 
How to Separate Society’s Timeline From Your Own
 
How to Support Friends Struggling With Fertility
 
The milestones that matter most are the ones that feel true to you, not the ones dictated by outside voices. Fulfillment is not found in comparison but in living with intention, compassion, and alignment to your own values.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:45 When Are You Going to Have Kids?
 
03:53 So, Do You Want to Have Kids?
 
07:57 Are You Prepared to Raise Kids?
 
12:31 A Different Mindset on Being a Parent
 
16:23 Delaying Parenthood Because of Financial Constraints
 
21:16 Parenthood Equates to Success
 
23:20 Can a Child Fix a Broken Relationship?
 
29:02 Are You Willing to Sacrifice Your Career to Become a Parent?
 
32:32 Live the Life You Want For Yourself
 
Episode Resources:
 
Radhi Devlukia | Website
 
Radhi Devlukia | YouTube
 
Radhi Devlukia | Instagram
 
Radhi Devlukia | Facebook
 
Radhi Devlukia | TikTok
 
Joyfull
 
A Really Good Cry

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Jay & Radhi Talk About the Pressure and Expectations Around Parenthood

Do you have a quick way to reset when you’re overwhelmed?
 
What’s something you wish worked better when you try to reset?
 
Today, Jay introduces a simple yet powerful 7-Day Micro Habit Reset, a series of small, intentional habits to help you pause, realign, and begin again with a clear mind and a calm heart. If you’ve been feeling drained, distracted, or disconnected from your goals, Jay reminds us that meaningful change doesn’t come from completely reinventing your routine, it starts with the small, mindful shifts you make every day.
 
Each habit is grounded in science, simplicity, and self-awareness. Jay explores how small practices, like expressing gratitude, taking a moment to reflect, or even embracing brief moments of discomfort, such as a 20-second cold rinse, can reset your energy, shift your perspective, and build emotional resilience. From writing just one sentence in your journal to checking in with your “future self,” these micro habits help you reclaim the calm and clarity that stress often takes away. This episode is a gentle reminder to slow down, find balance in the chaos, and trust that it’s the small, consistent actions that create real, lasting change.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Reset Your Mind in 3 Breaths
 
How to Start Your Day Without Stress
 
How to Start Your Day with Clarity, Not Chaos
 
How to Create Calm When Life Feels Messy
 
How to Reclaim Time by Resetting Small Habits
 
Change doesn’t have to be overwhelming. It begins with the smallest steps, the quiet moments when you choose to breathe, observe, and reset instead of react.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Introduction
 
01:02 The 3-Breath Reset
 
07:05 Start Your Morning With Natural Light, Not Screens!
 
09:53 The 2-Minute Tidy
 
13:09 The Gratitude Text
 
16:16 The 20-Second Cold Rinse
 
17:48 The 1-Sentence Journal to End the Day with Peace
 
20:02 The “Future You” Check-In

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7 Micro Habits That Will INSTANTLY Reset Your Mind & Boost Energy (Without Changing Your Whole Routine!)

When was the last time you felt truly at ease with someone?
 
Do you feel that kind of ease often, or was it rare?
 
In this special live episode recorded at the DAR Constitution Hall in Washington, D.C., Jay sits down with bestselling author and therapist Lori Gottlieb to explore the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships. Together, they unpack why so many of us feel the need to “perform” for love and how fear of rejection, perfectionism, and old emotional patterns can quietly erode connection. Lori shares how true intimacy begins with acceptance, not just of our partners, but of ourselves, and why showing up authentically is the only way to feel genuinely seen.
 
Through humor, warmth, and real audience interactions, Jay and Lori dive into topics like vulnerability, emotional safety, and the balance between “me time” and “we time.” They share how to stop trying to fix or control your partner, how to communicate without defensiveness, and how to build relationships rooted in curiosity and compassion instead of criticism.
 
This conversation is a reminder that love isn’t about finding someone who reads your mind, it’s about learning each other’s language, embracing imperfections, and creating a safe space where both people can grow.
 
In this interview, you'll learn:
 
How to Stop Performing for Love
 
How to Create Emotional Safety in a Relationship
 
How to Let Your Partner Be Vulnerable
 
How to Build Connection Through Acceptance
 
How to Communicate Without Getting Defensive
 
How to Balance “Me Time” and “We Time”
 
How to Love Without Trying to Fix
 
Love is not a performance, it’s a practice. It’s built in the quiet moments when we choose to listen instead of defend, to understand instead of control, and to show up even when it feels uncomfortable. Every relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, becomes stronger when we replace judgment with curiosity and fear with honesty.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:54 Earning Love Through Real Connection
 
03:16 Why You Should Speak Up Early
 
06:51 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability
 
11:20 Can You Love Someone Without Loving Yourself?
 
13:55 How Acceptance Strengthens Your Relationship
 
20:37 Compatibility vs. Chemistry: What Matters More?
 
25:07 Do Couples Need Individual Therapy Too?
 
28:05 A Live Couples Therapy Session
 
44:06 Communicate Clearly Not Through Assumptions
 
47:08 Healthy Ways to Approach Conflict
 
51:28 Understanding the Many Forms of Love
 
57:46 Are Both of Your Needs Being Met?
 
01:01:44 Learning to Embrace and Communicate Differences
 
Episode Resources:
 
Lori Gottlieb | YouTube
 
Lori Gottlieb | Instagram
 
Lori Gottlieb | Website
 
Dear Therapists Podcast
 
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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Lori Gottlieb: Stop Mistaking Calm for Boring! (Follow THIS Simple Rule to Build REAL Love)

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

I learned so much in this week's episode with psychiatrist, brain expert and ten-time New York Times bestselling author Dr. Daniel Amen. He walks us through the difference between the mind and the brain, teaches us how to get rid of ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) and teaches us how to train our brain to reach its maximum potential. He debunks quick fixes that provide temporary relief and goes over specific habits we can all implement in our daily lives in order to improve our mood and actually make it last.

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Dr. Daniel Amen: ON Training Your Brain for Optimal Performance

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