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The Angry Therapist

Audio-Only Episodes. Captain’s Log: No guests. No fluff. Just me, the mic, and whatever’s clawing at my insides. Think audio journaling meets back-of-the-bar confessions. Less psychobabble, more soul bleed. Raw, real, and mostly for me.

Audio + Video Episodes. You ask, I riff. Therapy meets real talk. More structure, more insight, more of the good stuff on love, dating, and tools we need to build a healthy relationship. Awesome guests. Less navel-gazing, more crowd-serving. This one’s for you.

The Angry Therapist Podcast

In this episode of Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy, we sit down with the questions people are often too afraid to ask out loud — the ones about love, loss, sex, shame, attachment, boredom, longing, and the quiet fear that maybe something is wrong with us.

From wondering why “healthy love” feels boring after toxicity… to grieving a breakup someone else moved on from too quickly… to asking how often long-term couples should be intimate… to questioning why we attract emotionally unavailable partners… to the messy, human moments around sex, desire, loneliness, and readiness.

These are the things we carry alone. This episode sets them down in the open.

Why This Episode Matters

These aren't just questions — they’re emotional crossroads.Most people bring them into therapy last, if ever.But naming them is the beginning of healing, clarity, and choosing differently.

Perfect For You If…

 You’re in a season of confusion about love or relationships

 You’re healing from a breakup

 You’re dating but frustrated by your patterns

 You want a healthier relationship with intimacy and connection

 You’re afraid to ask the questions that matter most

Listen Now

Every question in this episode is a doorway. Step through. 

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE

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Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy: What We’re Afraid to Ask

In this module, we explore why healthy love can feel unfamiliar — even uncomfortable — when your nervous system is used to chaos or stress. You’ll learn how your brain adapts to emotional environments, why joy can feel out of reach, and how tiny moments of safety can transform your entire relational world.

What you’ll learn: 

 Why calm love can initially feel “flat” 

 How repetition compulsion shows up in attraction 

 The neuroscience behind your default mode network 

 Why joy can feel unsafe — and how to rebuild access to it 

 How tiny daily joys create enormous emotional change 

 The difference between excitement and emotional intensity 

 How to build a relationship that feels grounded, stable, and deeply connected

This module is all about expanding your capacity for joy, hope, and relational peace — one small moment at a time.

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available ⁠HERE⁠

Follow Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald on Instagram HERE

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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How Safety Becomes Love: Rewiring Your Nervous System for Connection

In this module of the video course, we explore why we repeat the same relationship patterns — even when we know they’re not good for us — and how understanding your emotional wiring can shift everything.

You’ll learn:

 Why familiar relationships feel magnetic (even when they hurt)

 How early belonging shapes adult attraction

 The difference between healthy excitement and chaos

 How to navigate triggers with someone instead of alone

 Why healing happens in relationship, not isolation

 How to rewire your patterns with compassion instead of shame

This episode is a reminder that your patterns aren’t failures — they’re information. And once you understand them, you can create the relationships you’ve always deserved.

Follow Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald on Instagram HERE

The Secure Self course is available HERE

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

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Why We Repeat Patterns — And How to Heal Through Relationship

In Part Two of this powerful conversation, John Kim and Shaka Senghor go even deeper into healing, alignment, and the spiritual mechanics of change.

Shaka opens up about:

 How alignment shapes everything you attract

 What manifestation really is — and what it’s not

 Moving from shame into self-respect

 How imagination kept him alive in solitary confinement

 Daily practices that cultivate grace, joy, and hope

 The mindset shift that frees you from a lifetime of emotional prisons

 Why abundance begins with noticing the smallest moments

This episode is the invitation to your next chapter. A conversation about energy, intention, and the quiet decisions that build a new life.

📘 Get Shaka’s book ‘How to Be Free’ ⁠HERE⁠

📲 Follow Shaka Senghor on Instagram ⁠HERE⁠

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Living in Higher Frequency: A Guide to inner Freedom - Part 2

In this uplifting and deeply human conversation, John Kim sits with bestselling author and speaker Shaka Senghor to explore healing, forgiveness, purpose, and the power of rewriting your story.

Shaka shares:

 What it meant to write a letter to his mother after decades

 The journey from incarceration to inner transformation

 How forgiveness liberated him more than anger ever could

 What manifestation really means: alignment, intention, and showing up

 How shame, grief, and vulnerability shape our healing

 Why imagination is a life-saving tool

 The surprising gift of human connection — even in solitary confinement

If you need inspiration, hope, or a reminder that change is possible, this episode is for you.

📘 Get Shaka’s book ‘How to Be Free’ HERE

📲 Follow Shaka Senghor on Instagram HERE

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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How Shaka Senghor Turned His Life Into a Beacon of Hope - Part 1

In this episode, we explore the questions people are often afraid to ask out loud — the confusing, intimate, and deeply human moments that shape our relationships. From wondering if you’ve ever truly been in love, to navigating sticky boundaries, to deciding whether to stay or leave… we’re going there.

We grouped your questions into three core themes to make the conversation grounded, digestible, and honest.

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy: The Honest, Human Side of Love.

This episode is an excerpt from our video course module on understanding trauma and the nervous system.

In it, we break down trauma in a way that finally makes sense.

You’ll learn why trauma isn’t about the “big event,” but about unbearable emotional experiences without a relational home — and why your brain responds exactly the way it does.

Follow Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald on Instagram HERE
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Understanding Your Triggers: The Science That Sets You Free

This episode brings together members of John Kim’s Single on Purpose coaching team for an unfiltered, deeply human conversation about what happened when the SOP community was suddenly closed.

These are therapists, coaches, and facilitators — doing therapy on each other — exploring the activation, the grief, the meaning, and the unexpected wounds that surfaced.

You’ll hear them talk about:

 What SOP meant to them personally and professionally

 The abrupt ending and why it hit so hard

 Abandonment wounds, leadership, and rupture-repair

 The magic of the community they built together

 Why therapists are human, vulnerable, and messy too

 What they’re taking with them into the next chapter

Whether you were part of SOP, or you’re experiencing your own ending, transition, or rupture — this conversation will land.

CONNECT WITH THE COACHES:

Sean Cardinalli 

Instagram: @seancardinalli https://www.instagram.com/seancardinalli/

Medium: https://seancardinalli.medium.com/

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1388439

Linktree: https://campsite.to/seancardinalli

Mikey Brackett

Instagram: @mikey.brackett

Email: mikeybrackett@me.com

Therapy website: https://mikeybtherapy.com

Coaching website: https://mikeybrackett.com

Madeleine Downey

IG (info/coaching/counselling): @madeleinedowney

Substack: https://madeleinedowney.substack.com (It’s Giving Alchemy)

Shadow Work Group – Inner Compass Collective: 

https://inner-compass-collective.circle.so/

Email: Madeleine@vanessabennett.com

Amy Brown

Website: AmyBrown.Online

IG: CoachingWithAmyBrown

Email: Amy@MINDmgt.com

Taune Lyons

Taunelyons.com - therapy & somatic experiencing

 Comingtooursenses.substack.com 

Coming to our senses podcast - Spotify & apple

IG: Taunelyons 

Inner compass academy for classes on depth and somatic inner parenting

Taune@taunelyons.com

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available here. https://theangrytherapist.thrivecart.com/secure-self-bundle/ 

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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“We Felt Abandoned”: Therapists Process the End of SOP

In this module of the video course, we explore what really happens inside relationships when two people are trying — and struggling — to grow.

We talk about emotional language, repair, anger, shutdown, nervous-system responses, and what it means to feel safe with someone for the first time.

Whether you’re navigating conflict, trying to understand your partner better, or learning how to show up with more emotional maturity… this episode will help you understand what’s underneath the reactions you keep getting stuck in.

LINKS:

🔗 Secure Self Video Course — transform how you communicate, repair, and connect HERE

👉 Apply to Inner Compass Academy HERE

 👉 Follow Vanessa on Instagram HERE

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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When Your Partner Can’t Meet Your Needs… Do You Stay or Go?

In this raw, unfiltered reflection, John shares the real story behind going rogue as a therapist — from coffee-shop sessions to walk-and-talks, to breaking every rule therapy school ever taught him.

He explores the lifelong pattern of exchanging truth for membership, the fear of being seen, and the moment one client validated everything he was terrified to try.

This episode dives into authenticity, boundaries, regret, responsibility, and what it really means to help people while staying human yourself.

Key Themes & Takeaways:

 Why authenticity often feels like rebellion

 The moment validation becomes a catalyst

 The battle between honesty and belonging

 The emotional cost of doing therapy differently

 The blurry line between helping and harming

 The evolving role of therapists in a social media world

 Why growth is abstract, nonlinear, and deeply personal

📘 Read John’s new book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack ⁠HERE⁠

If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Going Rogue: The Truth About Becoming Yourself

In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship, or if you're only feeling this way because deep down you know that your partner isn't right for you. 

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Ask Angry: Am I Avoidant, or Just Not Really Into Them?

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