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In this episode, Shabnam Mogharabi discuss navigating modern challenges and explore practical spirituality and the quest for joy. Shabnam shares insights from positive psychology, the importance of community, and strategies for embedding well-being into workplace culture. The conversation highlights embracing imperfection, reframing adversity, and building habits that foster hope and connection, offering listeners actionable tools for personal and collective growth.

Exciting News!!!Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

Exploration of spirituality and its practical application in modern life.

 Discussion of resilience and the importance of community in spiritual growth.

 The significance of focusing on a few key social issues, such as education, women's rights, and immigration.

 The parable of the two wolves and its relevance to parenting and personal development.

 The relationship between spirituality and religion, including the positive aspects of religious traditions.

 The role of creativity as a fundamental expression of spirituality.

 The concept of joy as a resilient state of mind grounded in positive psychology.

 The critique of traditional workplace wellness programs and the need for cultural integration of positive psychology.

 The importance of intentional practices, such as community building and "noticing," in spiritual development.

 The impact of societal challenges, such as isolation and a crisis of meaning, on individual well-being and community connection.

For full show notes,⁠ click here⁠!

Connect with the show:

 
⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠

 Subscribe on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠ or ⁠Spotify⁠

 Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Shabnam Mogharabi, check out these other episodes:

A Soul Boom Discussion on Mental Health, Spirituality, and Connection with Rainn Wilson

Spiritual Journeys with Rainn Wilson & Reza Aslan

Rainn Wilson (from 2016)

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed, and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠

⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.

⁠Persona Nutrition ⁠delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to ⁠PersonaNutrition.com/FEED⁠ today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

⁠Grow Therapy ⁠– Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit ⁠growtherapy.com/feed ⁠today!

⁠AGZ⁠ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to ⁠drinkag1.com/feed⁠ to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

⁠Smalls⁠ – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Navigating Modern Challenges: Practical Spirituality and the Quest for Joy with Shabnam Mogharabi

In this episode, Kelly Wilson explains how to move from avoidance to acceptance: a new way to live with anxiety. He delves into how our vulnerabilities show us what matters to us, and that the goal isn’t to win a war inside. It’s to keep coming back to the next honest action that moves you towards what matters. That is at the core of acceptance and commitment therapy. Not chasing perfect feelings, but choosing the next right move towards your values, again and again.

Exciting News!!!Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 Exploration of psychological struggles, particularly anxiety, and their impact on life.

 Introduction to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and its core principles.

 Discussion of the six core processes of ACT: present moment awareness, cognitive defusion, acceptance, values, committed action, and self as context.

 Examination of the relationship between vulnerability and personal growth.

 Critique of traditional diagnostic labels and their limitations in understanding psychological experiences.

 Emphasis on the importance of values in guiding meaningful actions and decisions.

 Insights into the nature of human suffering and the commonality of psychological pain.

 The concept of redemption and its role in personal development and therapy.

 Reframing commitment as a moment-to-moment process rather than a rigid promise.

 Encouragement of compassion and understanding in the face of psychological challenges.

If you enjoyed this conversation with Kelly Wilson, check out these other episodes:

Steven C. Hayes

Russ Harris (Part 1)

Russ Harris (Part 2)

For full show notes,⁠ click here⁠!

Connect with the show:

 
⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠

 Subscribe on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠ or ⁠Spotify⁠

 Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠

⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.

⁠Persona Nutrition ⁠delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to ⁠PersonaNutrition.com/FEED⁠ today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

⁠Grow Therapy ⁠– Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit ⁠growtherapy.com/feed ⁠today!

⁠AGZ⁠ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to ⁠drinkag1.com/feed⁠ to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From Avoidance to Acceptance: A New Way to Live with Anxiety with Kelly Wilson

In this episode, Joe Nucci explores what it means to go beyond the buzzwords and how to talk about mental health without losing its meaning. He explains how mental health language has become less useful as it’s gained popularity, and how clinical terms meant for specific purposes have drifted into everyday speech until they describe everything, and therefore, nothing. The words we use create the world we see, and once you start viewing yourself through a diagnostic lens, it can be hard to see in any other way. One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is that the value of a psychological term lies not only in its accuracy, but in its usefulness, and sometimes the language we use builds a cage instead of offering clarity.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 The popularization of mental health language and concepts.

 The phenomenon of “psychobabble” and its implications.

 The concept of “concept creep” in mental health terminology.

 The importance of accurate mental health diagnoses and their clinical usefulness.

 The balance between clinical accuracy and practical application in mental health discussions.

 The complexities of people pleasing and its underlying motivations.

 The overuse and misapplication of the term “trauma” in contemporary discourse.

 The distinction between normal emotional responses and clinical disorders.

 The role of language in shaping perceptions of mental health.

 The need for nuanced, context-sensitive approaches to mental health treatment and understanding.

For full show notes,⁠ click here⁠!

Connect with the show:

 
⁠Follow us on YouTube: ⁠⁠@TheOneYouFeedPod⁠

 Subscribe on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠ or ⁠Spotify⁠

 Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠

If you enjoyed this conversation with Joe Nucci, check out these other episodes:

How to Harness Brain Energy for Mental Health with Dr. Chris Palmer

Why We Need to Rethink Mental Health with Eric Maisel

Insights on Mental Health and Resilience with Andrew Solomon

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

⁠Uncommon Goods ⁠has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to ⁠UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED⁠

⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.

⁠Persona Nutrition ⁠delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to ⁠PersonaNutrition.com/FEED⁠ today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

⁠Grow Therapy ⁠– Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit ⁠growtherapy.com/feed ⁠today!

⁠AGZ⁠ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to ⁠drinkag1.com/feed⁠ to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

⁠Smalls⁠ – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Beyond the Buzzwords: How to Talk About Mental Health Without Losing Its Meaning with Joe Nucci

In this episode, Luke Burgis explores the question, “Are your desires really yours?” and how to recognize and reclaim what you truly want. He discusses how to tell the difference between “thin desires (fleeting, imitated wants) and “thick desires” (the deeper longings that bring lasting fulfillment), and why discerning between the two can change the direction of your life. Luke also shares practices for uncovering your true hierarchy of values, creating alignment between what you want and who you want to be. Explore how to pivot from “I don’t want to” to “I do want to, I just don’t feel like it” and how to feed the desires that lead to meaning instead of comparison or regret.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 Exploration of the concept of mimetic desire and its origins in the work of René Girard.

 Discussion on how desires are often imitative and influenced by others rather than being inherently personal.

 The importance of discerning between beneficial and harmful desires in one’s life.

 The parable of the two wolves as a metaphor for the internal conflict between positive and negative desires.

 Differentiation between “thin desires” (fleeting and influenced by external factors) and “thick desires” (deeply rooted in personal values and identity).

 The role of self-reflection and narrative in understanding one’s desires and motivations.

 The significance of establishing a hierarchy of values to guide decision-making and desire cultivation.

 The impact of social interactions on shaping desires and the responsibility individuals have in influencing others.

 The concept of “stalking your greatest desire” as a means to align personal desires with one’s life mission.

 The importance of having a trusted partner for exploring and communicating desires, emphasizing the value of attentive listening

If you enjoyed this conversation with Luke Burgis, check out these other episodes:

How to Find Zest in Life with Dr. John Kaag

Finding Zen in the Ordinary with Christopher Keevil

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are Your Desires Really Yours? How to Recognize and Reclaim What You Truly Want with Luke Burgis

In this episode, Danielle LaPorte discusses how to turn life's pain into a path of meaning and joy. She explores spirituality, conscious choice, and emotional honesty. Danielle also delves into the importance of embracing both pain and joy, reframing obligations as choices, and avoiding “spiritual bypassing”—, which is the tendency to rush to positivity without fully feeling difficult emotions. She shares insights on authentic growth, the healing power of music, and the value of engaging with diverse perspectives. This episode will encourage you to face life’s challenges with compassion, presence, and self-awareness, nurturing the “good wolf” within.

Exciting News!!!Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 The significance of conscious choice in reframing obligations as empowering decisions.

 The impact of spiritual practices on personal growth and the importance of joy in these practices.

 The distinction between pain (inevitable) and suffering (optional) in navigating life’s challenges.

 The concept of “spiritual bypassing” and its effects on emotional health and authenticity.

 The role of emotional expression in personal growth, particularly regarding anger and disappointment.

 The importance of self-awareness in managing one’s strengths and weaknesses.

 Engaging with diverse perspectives to foster understanding and compassion in social and political contexts.

 The healing power of music and its role in emotional expression and therapy.

 Embracing the fullness of human experience, including both struggles and joys, to live a meaningful life.

For full show notes, click here!

Connect with the show:

 
Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod

 Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

 Follow us on Instagram

If you enjoyed this conversation with Danielle LaPorte, check out these other episodes:

Choosing Love Over Fear: Finding Joy, Confidence, and Self-Trust with Emma Gannon

Finding Hope When Life Isn’t Okay and the Power of Micro Joys with Cyndie Spiegel

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

Uncommon Goods has something for everyone – you’ll find thousands of new gift ideas that you won’t find anywhere else, and you’ll be supporting artists and small, independent businesses. To get 15% off your next gift, go to UNCOMMONGOODS.com/FEED

⁠LinkedIn⁠: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.

Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today!

AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Turn Life's Pain into a Path of Meaning and Joy with Danielle LaPorte

In this episode, Charles Duhigg explains how we can improve communication in polarized times. He explores how to foster active listening, social reciprocity, and techniques like “looping for understanding.” The conversation covers different types of conversations, the importance of focusing on common ground, and strategies for building and changing habits. Charles also shares insights on handling online conflict, the psychology of identity threat, and how intentional communication and habit design can improve relationships and personal well-being.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 Importance of active and ostentatious listening in conversations.

 Concept of social reciprocity and its role in effective communication.

 Techniques for improving dialogue, such as “looping for understanding.”

 Different types of conversations: practical, emotional, and social.

 The idea of meta conversation and setting clear goals for discussions.

 Strategies for focusing on common ground before addressing differences.

 The impact of politeness in online communication and reducing hostility.

 Understanding identity threat and its effects on open dialogue.

 The habit loop framework: cue, routine, and reward in habit formation.

 The significance of implementation intentions in managing habits and responses.

For full show notes, click here!

Connect with the show:

 
Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod

 Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

 Follow us on Instagram

If you enjoyed this conversation with Charles Duhigg, check out these other episodes:

Oren Jay Sofer on Mindful Communication

How to Unlock the Power of Deeper Connections with David Brooks

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How We Can Improve Communication in Polarized Times with Charles Duhigg

In this episode, Kelly Wilson explains how to move from avoidance to acceptance: a new way to live with anxiety. He delves into how our vulnerabilities show us what matters to us, and that the goal isn’t to win a war inside. It’s to keep coming back to the next honest action that moves you towards what matters. That is at the core of acceptance and commitment therapy. Not chasing perfect feelings, but choosing the next right move towards your values, again and again.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 • Exploration of psychological struggles, particularly anxiety, and their impact on life.
 • Introduction to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and its core principles.
 • Discussion of the six core processes of ACT: present moment awareness, cognitive defusion, acceptance, values, committed action, and self as context.
 • Examination of the relationship between vulnerability and personal growth.
 • Critique of traditional diagnostic labels and their limitations in understanding psychological experiences.
 • Emphasis on the importance of values in guiding meaningful actions and decisions.
 • Insights into the nature of human suffering and the commonality of psychological pain.
 • The concept of redemption and its role in personal development and therapy.
 • Reframing commitment as a moment-to-moment process rather than a rigid promise.
 • Encouragement of compassion and understanding in the face of psychological challenges.d understanding.

For full show notes, click here!

Connect with the show:

Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod • Subscribe on 
Apple Podcasts • or 
Spotify • Follow us on 
Instagram

If you enjoyed this conversation with Kelly Wilson, check out these other episodes:

Steven C. Hayes

Russ Harris (Part 1)

Russ Harris (Part 2)

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today!

Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books.

AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings.

LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Joe Nucci explores what it means to go beyond the buzzwords and how to talk about mental health without losing its meaning. He explains how mental health language has become less useful as it’s gained popularity, and how clinical terms meant for specific purposes have drifted into everyday speech until they describe everything, and therefore, nothing. The words we use create the world we see, and once you start viewing yourself through a diagnostic lens, it can be hard to see in any other way. One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is that the value of a psychological term lies not only in its accuracy, but in its usefulness, and sometimes the language we use builds a cage instead of offering clarity.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 • The popularization of mental health language and concepts.
 • The phenomenon of “psychobabble” and its implications.
 • The concept of “concept creep” in mental health terminology.
 • The importance of accurate mental health diagnoses and their clinical usefulness.
 • The balance between clinical accuracy and practical application in mental health discussions.
 • The complexities of people pleasing and its underlying motivations.
 • The overuse and misapplication of the term “trauma” in contemporary discourse.
 • The distinction between normal emotional responses and clinical disorders.
 • The role of language in shaping perceptions of mental health.
 • The need for nuanced, context-sensitive approaches to mental health treatment and understanding.

For full show notes, click here!

Connect with the show:

Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod • Subscribe on 
Apple Podcasts • or 
Spotify • Follow us on 
Instagram

If you enjoyed this conversation with Joe Nucci, check out these other episodes:

How to Harness Brain Energy for Mental Health with Dr. Chris Palmer

Why We Need to Rethink Mental Health with Eric Maisel

Insights on Mental Health and Resilience with Andrew Solomon

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today!

Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books.

AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings.

LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Luke Burgis explores the question, “Are your desires really yours?” and how to recognize and reclaim what you truly want. He discusses how to tell the difference between “thin desires (fleeting, imitated wants) and “thick desires” (the deeper longings that bring lasting fulfillment), and why discerning between the two can change the direction of your life. Luke also shares practices for uncovering your true hierarchy of values, creating alignment between what you want and who you want to be. Explore how to pivot from “I don’t want to” to “I do want to, I just dono’t feel like it” and how to feed the desires that lead to meaning instead of comparison or regret.

Exciting News!!!

Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 • Exploration of the concept of mimetic desire and its origins in the work of René Girard.
 • Discussion on how desires are often imitative and influenced by others rather than being inherently personal.
 • The importance of discerning between beneficial and harmful desires in one’s life.
 • The parable of the two wolves as a metaphor for the internal conflict between positive and negative desires.
 • Differentiation between “thin desires” (fleeting and influenced by external factors) and “thick desires” (deeply rooted in personal values and identity).
 • The role of self-reflection and narrative in understanding one’s desires and motivations.
 • The significance of establishing a hierarchy of values to guide decision-making and desire cultivation.
 • The impact of social interactions on shaping desires and the responsibility individuals have in influencing others.
 • The concept of “stalking your greatest desire” as a means to align personal desires with one’s life mission.
 • The importance of having a trusted partner for exploring and communicating desires, emphasizing the value of attentive listening.

For full show notes, click here!

Connect with the show:

 • Follow us on YouTube: 
@TheOneYouFeedPod • Subscribe on 
Apple Podcasts • or 
Spotify • Follow us on 
Instagram

If you enjoyed this conversation with Luke Burgis, check out these other episodes:

How to Find Zest in Life with Dr. John Kaag

Finding Zen in the Ordinary with Christopher Keevil

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

This episode is sponsored by:

Persona Nutrition delivers science-backed, personalized vitamin packs that make daily wellness simple and convenient. In just minutes, you get a plan tailored to your health goals. No clutter, no guesswork. Just grab-and-go packs designed by experts. Go to PersonaNutrition.com/FEED today to take the free assessment and get your personalized daily vitamin packs for an exclusive offer — get 40% off your first order.

Grow Therapy – Whatever challenges you’re facing, Grow Therapy is here to help. Sessions average about $21 with insurance, and some pay as little as $0, depending on their plan. (Availability and coverage vary by state and insurance plans. Visit growtherapy.com/feed today!

Delivering the WOW; Check out Richard Fain’s new book, a behind-the-scenes look at how he transformed Royal Caribbean into a world-class company through culture, innovation, and intentional leadership. Available now on Amazon and wherever you get your books.

AGZ – Start taking your sleep seriously with AGZ. Head to drinkag1.com/feed to get a FREE Welcome Kit with the flavor of your choice that includes a 30 day supply of AGZ and a FREE frother.

Smalls – Smalls cat food is protein-packed recipes made with preservative-free ingredients you’d find in your fridge… and it’s delivered right to your door. For a limited time, get 60% off your first order, plus free shipping, when you head to Smalls.com/FEED! No more picking between random brands at the store. Smalls has the right food to satisfy any cat’s cravings.

LinkedIn: Post your job for free at linkedin.com/1youfeed. Terms and conditions apply.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Daria Burke discusses the non-linear path to healing and how to find wholeness after trauma. She shares her experiences growing up in Detroit with parents struggling with addiction, the impact of adversity, and her path toward self-discovery and integration. Daria also explores the complexities of healing, the importance of embracing all parts of oneself, and the power of nature and personal growth as metaphors for transformation and hope.
Exciting News!!! My new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life, is now available for pre-orders!
Key Takeaways:

Exploration of trauma and its impact on personal development.

Discussion on resilience and the capacity to heal from past experiences.

The concept of integration as a means of reconciling different aspects of oneself.

The role of inherited legacies and environmental factors in shaping identity.

Examination of coping mechanisms, including dissociation and adaptive avoidance.

The nonlinear nature of healing and the importance of self-compassion.

Insights into various therapeutic modalities, including somatic therapies.

The significance of control and surrender in the healing process.

Metaphors illustrating the journey of healing, such as the growth of hydrangeas.

Emphasis on the ongoing nature of personal growth and the importance of community support.

If you enjoyed this conversation with Daria Burke, check out these other episodes:
Healing Painful Patterns and Finding Freedom with Radhule Weininger
What Brings Healing, Strength, and Connection with Dani Shapiro
For full show notes, click here!
Connect with the show:

Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

Follow us on Instagram

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