#79 - John Clarke (Part 2) - Parts Work Perspective - Witnessing Without Judgment - Leading from Self, Listening to Parts - Having No Agenda

Is it a part or your Self? Can I be in Self 100 percent while still wanting my clients not to hurt themselves? Is who I think I am truly me, or a manager? When an exile has been healed, do I still carry it within me? How do I know my parts are real and not just something I’ve made up? If you sometimes wonder about questions like these, this episode is for you! This is the second episode in the series with John Clarke, helping us tap deeper into Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Parts Work. John is the Clinical Director of Calm Again Counseling, a member of the IFS teaching staff at IFSCA, and the host of the podcast Going Inside: Healing Trauma from the Inside Out. Listen in as we speak about topics such as: ⎯ Honoring your parts by naming them ⎯ Being Self-led ⎯ How we quickly get into our parts, for example when it becomes really important to be understood ⎯ Noticing your body as your parts ask if their services are needed ⎯ Understanding the truth of the part ⎯ Managers burning out is one reason we go to therapy ⎯ Addictive parts and their intention ⎯ Having compassion for others softens their parts ⎯ Listening to angry parts ⎯ Asking parts: How are you trying to protect me? ⎯ How validation can lead to healing ⎯ Protectors, exiles, and perceived threats ⎯ We only get to know a handful of the players in our internal system ⎯ Parts mapping to deepen connection to parts ⎯ Restoring internal attachment: Will you be here when I need you the most? How much do I matter? ⎯ Adults still waiting for their parents to apologize ⎯ The self-like agenda in therapist parts that want to rescue clients ⎯ Protectors hurting for a good reason ⎯ Why it’s not helpful to shame protectors ⎯ Moving beyond a top-down approach that only manages symptoms ⎯ Why the goal is not to stop the behavior ⎯ Honoring separateness — don’t jump into the hole with people ⎯ John Clarke’s 84-year-old therapist’s words of love ⎯ The real job of a therapist/what therapists owe their clients ⎯ The paradox of healing: When you no longer need the client to get better, the client gets better ⎯ Empathy versus compassion ⎯ Why compassion fatigue doesn’t exist Thank you for being here — there’s definitely a part of me that wants you to stick around. - Mannah LINKS: Find more on John Clarke: https://www.johnclarketherapy.com/ Going Inside Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/going-inside-healing-trauma-from-the-inside-out/id1728733093 The podcast episode I mention in the end that hits home for me speaking about religious trauma, is right here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/going-inside-healing-trauma-from-the-inside-out/id1728733093 My website: https://www.therapeuticastrologer.com/ Video version: https://youtu.be/Td4i12zXMLY