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The Angry Therapist

Audio-Only Episodes. Captain’s Log: No guests. No fluff. Just me, the mic, and whatever’s clawing at my insides. Think audio journaling meets back-of-the-bar confessions. Less psychobabble, more soul bleed. Raw, real, and mostly for me.

Audio + Video Episodes. You ask, I riff. Therapy meets real talk. More structure, more insight, more of the good stuff on love, dating, and tools we need to build a healthy relationship. Awesome guests. Less navel-gazing, more crowd-serving. This one’s for you.

The Angry Therapist Podcast

There’s a freedom that comes in your 40s that no one warns you about - because it doesn’t come from achievement or success. It comes from shedding.

In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about what it really means to stop giving a f*ck - not in the cynical sense, but in the self-loving one.It’s about choosing your energy wisely, letting go of people and stories that no longer fit, and returning to who you were before the world told you to shrink.

This is the power of midlife clarity. It’s not burnout - it’s rebirth.

In this episode:

 What “not giving a f*ck” really means (hint: it’s not apathy)

 How turning 40 rewires your priorities

 Knowing what’s yours to own - and what’s not

 The end of proving yourself and chasing validation

 Returning to your core self

 The quiet strength of keeping promises to yourself

Mentioned in this episode:

Vanessa’s Inter Compass Academy - coaching through the lens of depth psychology.

Join the next cohort HERE⁠ or learn more about Vanessa HERE

Follow Vanessa on Instagram: @vanessaabennett

Join John in Costa Rica, Dec 1–5. A retreat for connection, creativity, and fresh starts with an optional two-day medicine journey. Sign up HERE

John’s SubStack HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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The Power of Not Giving a F*ck After 40

What happens when love feels like pressure - when “I’m proud of you” never came? In this honest conversation, John Kim and John Wang, author of Big Asian Energy, talk about growing up with parents who equated love with achievement, and what it takes to finally feel enough on your own terms.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

 The invisible weight of trying to make your parents proud

 Why love often sounds like pressure in achievement-driven families

 The difference between being accepted and truly belonging

 Healing generational patterns of sacrifice and self-doubt

 Redefining success to include joy, rest, and self-worth

📘 John Wang’s book, Big Asian Energy, is available HERE and wherever books are sold.

 👉 Follow John Wang on Instagram @johnwangofficial 

John Wang's Website HERE

Join John in Costa Rica, Dec 1–5. A retreat for connection, creativity, and fresh starts with an optional two-day medicine journey. Sign up HERE

John’s SubStack HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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The Pressure to Make Them Proud: Letting Go of Conditional Love

In this Q&A, John Kim answers your raw, unfiltered questions about love, attachment, and what it actually takes to build a healthy relationship. From anxious-avoidant dynamics to retroactive jealousy and emotional unavailability — this one gets real. Whether you’re questioning if love should be easy, wondering why your partner won’t commit, or struggling to let go of the past, this episode dives straight into the messy middle — and ends with clarity, honesty, and hope.

Join John in Costa Rica, Dec 1–5. A retreat for connection, creativity, and fresh starts with an optional two-day medicine journey. Sign up HERE

John’s SubStack HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy | Love is Better. Not Harder.

What happens when your dream wedding hides a truth your body already knows? In this powerful conversation, writer and author Amber Rae opens up to John Kim about walking down the aisle knowing she was marrying the wrong man - and the courage it took to leave, fall in love again, and finally meet herself.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

 Knowing when you’re in the wrong relationship

 The fear of leaving when everyone’s watching

 How unmet childhood wounds shape our choices

 The difference between safety and true connection

 Why telling the truth can set everyone free

Whether you’re stuck in a “safe” love, afraid to start over, or trying to trust your gut again, this story will remind you that it’s never too late to choose yourself.

Amber Rae’s new book Lovable is out now and available HERE 

Follow Amber at @heyamberrae

Visit amberrae.com for more of her work.
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I Knew on My Wedding Day He Wasn’t the One

What happens when the blueprint you’ve been chasing - cars, houses, status - no longer fits who you’ve become? In this powerful episode, John Kim shares how he traded Hollywood dreams for a meaningful life in Costa Rica, and how redefining his blueprint transformed everything.

In this conversation, you’ll hear about:

 Why chasing cars, houses, and status leaves you empty

 The shift from living “outside-in” to “inside-out”

 How unconscious definitions shape love, work, and happiness

 The moment John redefined his blueprint as a parent

 Steps to rewrite your blueprint and live with meaning

This isn’t about rejecting success - it’s about creating new definitions that actually serve who you are today.

Join John in Costa Rica, Dec 1–5. A retreat for connection, creativity, and fresh starts with an optional two-day medicine journey. Sign up HERE

John’s SubStack HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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How I Traded Hollywood Dreams for a Real Life

What do you do when life forces you to start over? John Kim shares how he rebuilt his life in Costa Rica - through community, facing fears, daily rituals, and love check-ins. A raw, honest guide to rebuilding with intention.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

 How community can ground and heal you

 Facing fears to unlock flow states

 Shifting fitness and diet in new ways

 Why relationships get exposed during big transitions

 Anchors, daily rituals, and what it means to “spin plates”

Whether you’re recovering from loss, moving somewhere new, or just craving change, this episode is a roadmap for rebuilding with intention.

🌴 Plus: John announces his upcoming Costa Rica retreat, December 1–5, with an optional two-day medicine journey add-on. Designed as a hybrid of adventure and wellness, this retreat is about connection, creativity, and starting fresh in one of the most beautiful places on earth.

Sign up HERE

John’s SubStack HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Building A Life That Fills You

What if there were no “wrong” choices - only honest ones? In this episode, John Kim unpacks how to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting the decisions that truly align with who you are.

Instead of chasing the “right” path or playing it safe, John shares how honest choices open doors you never expected, build real self-trust, and help you live without regrets.

In this conversation, you’ll discover:

 Why “safe” decisions often keep you stuck

 The surprising difference between right vs. honest choices

 How to use your body and intuition as a compass

 Two simple questions that cut through fear and doubtWhy the real risk isn’t failure - it’s never really living

If you’ve been paralyzed by indecision, this is the episode that will help you choose courage over fear and step fully into your own life.

John’s SubStack HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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No Regrets: The Power of Honest Choices

In this Q&A episode, we dive into your unfiltered questions about heartbreak, dating, relationships, and therapy. From moving on after betrayal to navigating compatibility and attachment, we explore the messy, honest realities of love - and the ways we can grow through them.

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy | Hard Truths on the Couch

Can trauma become your superpower? In this powerful conversation, John Kim sits down with author and ghostwriter Sheree Medeiros to explore how the deepest wounds can lead to resilience, healing, and even purpose.

Sheree shares her journey - growing up with an absent father, surviving sexual assault, battling illness, and ultimately discovering that her pain could be transformed into service, connection, and strength.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

 How father wounds shape identity and relationships

 Sheree’s story of survival, forgiveness, and resilience

 The hidden connection between trauma and physical illness

 Why hyper-independence can be a false strength

 The power of vulnerability, community, and rewriting your story

📘 About Sheree Medeiros (Trask): Sheree is the author of Surviving Silence (October 2022), a seasoned ghostwriter, and a nonfiction book writing coach. She supports coaches, healers, and leaders in writing their transformational books to make a bigger impact, build authority, and gain recognition in their fields. Sheree has ghostwritten for some of the most influential names in personal development and holistic health, with her work published by Hay House, Inc. and HarperCollins.

She is on a mission to help transform the hearts and minds of humanity through courageous storytelling, aiming to raise the collective consciousness and truly be free to live unapologetically out loud.

📕 Get her book: Surviving Silence HERE

John’s SubStack HERE

Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Can Trauma Become Your Superpower? | Sheree’s Story of Healing & Resilience

Do you ever feel like an invisible script is controlling your life, dictating what you can and can't achieve? What if I told you that script was written by *you*, and you have the power to rewrite every single line? In this episode, licensed therapist - John Kim will reveal how to identify those hidden limiting beliefs and transform your narrative for good.

John’s SubStack HERE

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Unscripting Your Limiting Beliefs: Rewrite Your Narrative

In this first episode of a five-part series, John and Lair Torrent (LMFT) explore the foundations of healthy relationships, the evolving role of men, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. They also discuss the importance of vulnerability, expressing emotional needs, reconnecting with one's authentic self, healing your inner child, and more. 

Find out more about Lair HERE
Follow Lair on Instagram HERE
Buy Lair's book The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts HERE

You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE

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The Unfinished Man with Lair Torrent (Part 1): What We’ve Learned About Relationships

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