Fred Colby

The greatest fears I had during my grieving was that I was losing control, going crazy, and might make decisions that would harm me, my family, and my friends. This included suicidal thoughts which scared the hell out of me. I was desperate to find answers. Quickly, I found those answers would be hard to find, as resources for widowers are minimal and often of dubious value.

In Widower to Widower, I've compiled the most vital information I could find on the widower experience into one book, so the reader does not have to search as hard as I had to do. I include many critical issues not addressed in other publications. This can be raw and brutal at times, much like the grieving process itself. 

Widower to Widower is woven around blogs I wrote during and after my wife's passing. This storytelling element allows the reader to be in the moment with me during the grieving experience, and to see that their own experience is not uncommon.

As I've learned from hundreds of fellow widowers, mine was not a unique journey but was similar, in many respects, to their journey as well. I am the expert only on my own experience. Each widower's experience is unique, but there are common threads and shared experiences. We must each find our own path while learning what we can from each other.

This second edition includes 60 additional pages of research, insights, resources, and a men's grief group guide. Reader testimonies are included in the first two pages of this 2nd edition.

Tom Askin

Front Range Press

Widower to Widower: Surviving the End of Your Most Important Relationship

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