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It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life

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THE INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND USA TODAY BESTSELLER

Oprah Daily Best Self-Help Books for Personal Growth in 2025 – New York Post Best of the Month

The beloved relationship coach, teacher, and host of the top relationship podcast Jillian on Love reveals nine core truths about love and self-acceptance and provides powerful self-healing techniques and strategies to help us repair our relationship with ourselves and start building the rewarding relationships we deserve.

Jillian Turecki’s holistic, compassionate, yet no-nonsense approach to love has attracted a devoted following of millions. In her highly anticipated debut book, she makes clear that if you want a meaningful relationship filled with connection, security, and intimacy, you have to look within. The common denominator in all your relationships is you.

Drawing from decades of experience helping clients heal themselves and their relationships, It Begins with You introduces the 9 core truths we must accept in order to change our lives: • Truth 1: It begins with you. • Truth 2: The mind is a battlefield. • Truth 3: Lust is not the same thing as love. • Truth 4: You have to love yourself. • Truth 5: You must speak up and tell the truth. • Truth 6: You need to be your best self (even after the honeymoon). • Truth 7: You cannot convince someone to love you. • Truth 8: No one is coming to save you. • Truth 9: You must make peace with your parents. Blending therapeutic strategies, somatic techniques, client case studies, practical tools, tips, and guiding questions, It Begins with You gives us a roadmap to finally start doing the work needed to love ourselves and find the love we deserve. It's never too late to choose yourself.

© 2025 HarperOne (Audiobook): 9780063374379

Release date

Audiobook: 14 January 2025

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