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How Can I Get Through To You?

15 Ratings

4.2

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From “a superstar couples therapist…and a maestro of interpersonal drama” (The New York Times), this book offers solutions for attaining the healthy communication and emotional intimacy we all desire in our relationships.

Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terry Real unearths the causes of communication breakdowns between men and women in this groundbreaking guide to relationship repair. Relationships are in trouble; the demand for intimacy today must be met with new skills, and Real—drawing on his pioneering work on male depression—gives both men and women those skills, empowering women and connecting men, radically reversing the attitudes and emotional stumbling blocks of the patriarchal culture in which we were raised. Filled with powerful stories of the couples Real treats, How Can I Get Through to You? stands apart as a transformative relationship advice book—straight-talking, compassionate, and deeply insightful in its innovative approach to healing emotional wounds and rebuilding trust between partners

© 2002 Simon & Schuster Audio (Audiobook): 9780743568821

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Audiobook: January 1, 2002

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