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Melissa Monte | Conscious Coach

Ever felt like you’re waking up in a world that still wants you asleep?

Like you’ve always thought deeper, asked bigger questions… and saw through the illusions faster than most?

Mind Love™ is a top 0.5% podcast with over 500 episodes, and Podcast of the Year winner.

Hosted by Melissa Monte...speaker, story mentor, and self-proclaimed questioner of everything.

This show is for the spiritually curious and mentally sharp.

The ones who crave depth but reject dogma.

Who believe in energy and brain chemistry.

Who want to connect with Source but question religion.

Who want to feel more free in a world that tells them to stay small.

Inside each episode, we explore:

 • Conversations that blend the sacred, the scientific, and the suppressed
 • Tools to help you rewire your mind, reclaim your voice, and rewrite your inner narrative
 • The questions most people are afraid to ask...about healing, identity, and what it means to wake up

New episodes every week.

Because thinking for yourself is a rebellion. And awakening is a discipline.

Mind Love • Modern Mindfulness to Think, Feel, and Live Well

In this episode, you'll discover:

 • Why your body rebels when you're living someone else's script
 • The third option between toxic masculinity and invisible masculinity
 • How real masculine power actually improves intimate relationships

What if the price of being the "good guy" is losing yourself completely?

I'm so tired of hearing women complain about where all the good men are. You know what I think? They're out there. They're just so busy trying not to be toxic that they've made themselves invisible. We've swung from one extreme to another. Now instead of dealing with assholes, we're dating ghosts.

You've got two terrible options in the dating world. Door number one: the obvious red flags who think emotions are for weaklings and leadership means being the loudest jackass in the room. Door number two: guys who are so terrified of taking up space that there's nothing actually there. Sure, they're nice. Sure, they're safe. But they're also the type to suggest going Dutch on the first date because making any kind of move feels too risky.

Men are killing themselves at three times the rate of women, but they won't ask for help. And honestly? I get it. The message they're getting is confusing as hell. Be vulnerable but not weak. Be strong but not aggressive. Lead but don't be controlling. No wonder they're paralyzed.

The thing is, we're all paying for this mess. When the men in our lives are walking around dead inside, our relationships suffer. Our kids learn that strength means shutting down. Everyone loses when half the population is too scared to show up authentically.

Carl Jung wrote about the wounded healer. The person whose deepest pain becomes their greatest gift. A lot of men have learned to be incredibly sensitive to everyone else's feelings because they've completely numbed their own. They'll bend over backwards to make you happy while slowly suffocating inside.

Today our guest is Isaac Wathen, a men's coach who helps guys move from people-pleasing to actual leadership. After his own health crisis forced him to face how disconnected he'd become, Isaac figured out how to reclaim masculine power without becoming a total dick about it.

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The Third Way: Beyond Toxic and Beta Masculinity with Isaac Wathen • 422

In this episode, you'll discover:

 • Why your brain rewards comparison and what to do about it
 • How ancient mammal wiring drives modern addiction patterns and self-sabotage
 • The real reason happiness chemicals fade and how to retrain your response

Ever notice how you can't stop comparing yourself to other people, even when you know it makes you miserable?

There's a reason for that. And it has nothing to do with social media, your childhood trauma, or some defect in your personality.

It's because your brain works exactly like a goat’s. 

I know that sounds strange. But stay with me. Because understanding this one piece of mammal brain science explains why you scroll Instagram feeling inadequate, why you can't stop reaching for that thing you swore you'd quit, why happiness never seems to stick around as long as you want it to.

We spend so much energy trying to fix ourselves. Trying to stop comparing. Trying to feel content. Trying to be happy all the damn time. But what if the problem isn't you? What if your brain is just doing exactly what it evolved to do?

Today our guest is Loretta Breuning, founder of the Inner Mammal Institute and author who spent decades studying how mammal brain chemistry shapes human behavior. After observing goat social dynamics at a farm, she uncovered patterns that completely changed how she understood human conflict, competition, and happiness.

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The Animal Brain Science of Why Nothing Feels Good Enough with Loretta Breuning • 421

What you'll discover in this episode:

 • The real reason most people never question their predetermined path
 • Why exhaustion might be your signal to pivot everything
 • How to build a business when you have zero evidence yet

What if the life you've carefully planned isn't the one you're meant to live?

There's this moment that happens when you're living someone else's version of your life. You might not even realize it at first. You're checking all the boxes, following the plan, doing what you're supposed to do. But something feels off. Something feels hollow. Maybe you've felt it too. That gnawing sense that the dreams you've been chasing might not actually be yours.

That's exactly what happened to our guest today. Picture this: you're 22, fresh out of college with a prestigious degree, job offers waiting, and the golden path to success stretched out in front of you. Then you fall in love while studying abroad and suddenly everything you thought you wanted feels like someone else's story.

Today our guest is Samantha Smith, an entrepreneur and personal brand strategist who helps women build authentic businesses around their unique gifts. She's built a successful coaching practice and podcast after walking away from everything that looked right on paper to follow what felt right in her heart.

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Questioning Everything You Thought You Wanted with Samantha Smith • 420

Here's what you'll discover in this episode:

 • Why your triggers are actually doorways to freedom
 • How to tell if you're healing or just recycling trauma
 • The difference between spiritual growth and ego transformation

When does healing become just another addiction?

I used to think healing meant fixing all the broken parts of myself. Like I could somehow surgically remove every wound, every trigger, every uncomfortable emotion and emerge as this perfectly polished version of who I was supposed to be. But that's not healing. That's spiritual bypassing dressed up in self-help language.

What I didn't realize is that healing can become its own trap. You can get so addicted to the process, so comfortable in the identity of "someone who's working on themselves," that you never actually arrive anywhere. You just keep circling the same wounds, having the same breakthroughs, collecting the same insights like spiritual trophies.

Real healing looks more like standing at an intersection, recognizing you're about to road rage at someone who cut you off, and suddenly seeing that your anger has nothing to do with them. It's about that part of you that's still 12 years old, desperate to be seen and validated. The part you've been trying to silence for decades.

Today our guest is Nicholas Cassius Clay, an integrative coach and founder of Being One World who helps people cut through the healing fog to find real clarity. He combines everything from ancient wisdom to neuroscience, helping clients actually complete their healing cycles instead of endlessly circling them.

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When Healing Becomes Your New Addiction with Nicholas Clay • 419

In this conversation, you'll discover:

• How to recognize when you're "sleep talking" through life 

• The four types of conversations that reveal communication patterns

• Why most promises fail and how commitment builds trust

How many relationships have you damaged because you had to be right?

Most of us learned how to communicate from our families, our schools, our cultures. We picked up these conversational habits without ever questioning them. We argue to be right instead of learning something new. We make promises we can't keep because we're too uncomfortable saying no. We tell ourselves stories that limit who we can become, and we don't even realize we're doing it.

I used to think good communication was about being articulate or winning the argument. I thought if I could just find the right words, I could make people see my point of view. But what I discovered through my own journey is that most of our conversations happen on complete autopilot. We're not really listening. We're just waiting for our turn to speak. We're defending positions we never consciously chose.

Then I started meeting people who communicated differently. People who could disagree with me without making me feel attacked. People who asked questions that made me think instead of questions designed to trap me. After conversations with them, I'd walk away feeling expanded rather than drained. There was something they understood about communication that I was missing.

Today our guest is Chuck Wisner, a leadership coach and author of "The Four Conversations" who has spent decades studying how conscious communication can transform relationships and unlock human potential. He combines practical tools with deep awareness work to help people break free from unconscious conversational patterns.

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Your Need to Be Right Is Killing Your Relationships with Chuck Wisner • 418

In this episode, you'll discover:

• How to spot the signs of high functioning codependency - the difference between healthy helping and compulsive over-functioning

• Why your advice-giving might be hurting more than helping - and how to support people without fixing them

• Two simple questions to ask before saying yes to anything - so you can stop abandoning yourself in the name of being nice

What if being the "strong one" is actually making you weaker? What if all that advice-giving, crisis-managing, and problem-solving you do for everyone else is slowly draining the life out of you?

You don't think you're codependent. You're not sitting around waiting for some addict to come home. You're not needy or clingy or desperate. Hell, you're the opposite—you're the one everyone depends on. You make the money, handle the crises, give the advice, and keep everyone's world spinning. So when someone mentions codependency, you immediately think, "That's not me. Everyone's dependent on ME."

But here's what nobody talks about: there's a brand of codependency that hides behind competence. It looks like strength, sounds like leadership, and feels like love. I spent years thinking my ability to fix everyone's problems was my greatest asset. I was the friend with all the answers, the daughter who managed family drama, the partner who handled everything so smoothly that no one even knew there were problems to handle. From the outside, my life looked like I had it all together. On the inside, I was drowning in everyone else's emotional chaos while completely abandoning my own needs.

Today our guest is Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert who coined the term "high functioning codependency" after seeing the same patterns show up repeatedly in her practice with successful, accomplished women. She's the author of "Too Much" and has spent decades helping people recognize and break free from these invisible chains.

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Why You're Exhausted From Helping Everyone But Yourself with Terri Cole • 417

In this conversation, you'll discover:

• How to spot Wetiko when it's running you and why seeing it clearly breaks the pattern

• The quantum nature of this mind virus and how your healing shifts the collective field

• Why your deepest struggles are actually revelations and how to extract their medicine

Have you ever wondered why the same destructive patterns keep showing up in your family, generation after generation, like some kind of toxic inheritance you never asked for?

Growing up, I knew addiction ran in my family. I knew I came from trauma. It was there in the stories, in the family history, but my dad had been sober most of my life. At least the life I could remember. And maybe that's exactly why I felt immune to it. I was aware. I was conscious. I was going to be different. I'd learned from the past without having to live it.

Until I wasn't different at all.

Until I found myself eight years deep in my own eating disorder, trapped in cycles that felt completely beyond my control. Wondering how the hell I'd ended up becoming the very thing I thought I'd escaped. This wasn't just personal failure. This was something way bigger than me.

What I was experiencing has a name. Indigenous wisdom keepers have known this for centuries. They called it Wetiko. A cannibalistic mind virus that feeds on human consciousness, spreading from person to person, generation to generation.

And right now? This thing is everywhere.

Look around. Families torn apart by politics. Communities fracturing. We're destroying our planet while building technologies that could save us or kill us. Depression and anxiety rates climbing every year. We keep treating these like separate problems. They're not. They're all symptoms of the same infection.

Today our guest is Paul Levy. A pioneer in the field of spiritual emergence, Paul is a wounded healer in private practice, assisting others who are also awakening to the dreamlike nature of reality. He has authored six books, three of which are on the Wetiko mind virus, and is the founder of the "Awaken in the Dream Community" in Portland, Oregon.

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The Wetiko Mind Virus That Turns Good People Evil with Paul Levy • 416

You'll learn:

 • How to decode your dreams using Kelly's "JETSET" method—a step-by-step process that reveals the intelligence hiding in even your weirdest dreams
 • How clearing your inner conflicts unlocks prophetic, guidance-filled dreams that support your growth
 • Kelly's "Dream-A-Festing" technique for calling in solutions through your sleep—turning bedtime into active co-creation with your higher wisdom

What if every night you're getting a personalized roadmap for your life, but you keep throwing it in the trash the second you wake up?

Look, I've been all over the place with dreams. Sometimes I'm obsessed, writing them down, trying to decode every weird symbol. Other times I wake up like "what the actual hell was that about?" and completely ignore them. But I've had enough experiences—especially after my dad died—to know something real is happening.

Your brain during dreams uses the exact same pathways as near-death experiences and psychedelic journeys. We're literally wired for this stuff, but most of us act like a third of our lives doesn't matter.

Today our guest is Dr. Kelly Sullivan Walden, a licensed therapist with 30 years of experience and author of the upcoming book "Dream-A-Festing." Kelly has worked with thousands of dreams and created a system for turning nighttime chaos into daily wisdom.

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How to Decode Messages in Your Dreams with Dr. Kelly Walden • 415

In this conversation, you'll discover:

• How the Law of Reflections reveals that your most toxic relationships are mirrors of how you treat yourself - in areas you probably don't even realize

• Why the universe literally creates villains in your life - and the shocking reason this built-in system is actually design ed to save you

• The dark energetic rituals you're accidentally performing - and how leaving bad reviews creates karmic cycles that destroy your own life

Have you ever noticed how the people who trigger you most are often reflecting back something you can't quite see in yourself?

I've been fascinated lately by this idea that our external world operates like a mirror - not in some superficial "thoughts become things" way, but in a much more precise, almost mathematical system. The Kabbalists understood this. They spoke of the divine matrix, where every soul encounter serves the evolution of consciousness. Eastern philosophy has always recognized that what we perceive as separate from us is actually extensions of our own awareness, playing out the unresolved patterns within our psyche.

But here's what most spiritual teachings don't tell you: there are actual laws governing these reflections. Universal principles as reliable as physics, as predictable as chemistry. And when you understand how these laws work, you realize that nothing - absolutely nothing - shows up in your reality by accident.

What if your most difficult relationships are actually assignments? What if the obstacles that feel like punishment are really the universe's way of showing you exactly where you still give your power away? What if every person who triggers you is offering you a glimpse of an unconscious belief that's ready to be healed?

Today our guest is Alessandro Giannetti, a consciousness researcher who has spent decades mapping the precise mechanics of how universal laws operate in our daily lives. After discovering profound healing abilities as a child and navigating his own series of life-altering challenges, Alessandro developed scientifically-based methods for understanding the invisible forces that shape our reality - forces most people don't even know exist.

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The Divine Laws That Control Your Reality (And Why You Were Never Taught Them) with Alessandro Giannetti • 414

In this episode, you'll discover:

Why waiting for certainty keeps you broke • - and what to do instead
The magic of giving before getting • - how generosity becomes your competitive advantage
How to delete your inner "what if" voice • - and start trusting life's intelligence

What happens when you stop asking for permission and start creating your own opportunities?

Last week, I was talking to a friend who's been "getting ready" to launch her business for three years. She has the perfect website mockups, a detailed business plan, and a spreadsheet that would make a NASA engineer weep with joy. Meanwhile, she's still working a job she hates, waiting for the right moment that apparently requires a solar eclipse and her horoscope to say "today's the day."

It got me thinking about the stories we tell ourselves about readiness, about safety, about doing things the "right" way. Most of us have been conditioned to believe that preparation equals protection. That if we just plan enough, research enough, save enough, we can somehow guarantee our success before we even start. Spoiler alert: that guarantee doesn't exist.

But what if that's backwards? What if the very act of waiting for certainty is what keeps us stuck in patterns that don't serve us?

Sometimes the biggest shift isn't about changing what you do—it's about changing who you surround yourself with.

Today our guest is Mark Yuzuik, a transformational speaker and master hypnotist who has motivated and entertained hundreds of thousands of people throughout the world for more than 25 years. He's living proof that when you stop waiting for permission, life starts saying yes in ways you never expected.

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How to Create Opportunities Out of Thin Air with Hypnotist Mark Yuzuik • 413

We will learn:

 • The biggest myths around setting and enforcing good boundaries. 

 • What we gain by staying stuck and how to stop getting in your own way. 

 • How boundaries relate to embracing your true self. 

 

Have you ever struggled to set boundaries for yourself? Have you ever set boundaries for yourself just to find that you continuously struggle to uphold them?

Setting and upholding boundaries is a process. Sometimes the best thing we can do is to simply take space, because we don’t have enough strength to uphold the boundaries we set. 

But for the people we love, taking space isn’t always the answer. To have healthy relationships it is essential for us to understand our own personal standards, where to draw the line, and how to hold that line even under pressure. 

So how do we start developing this skill set?

That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. She is also the author of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.

 

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