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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

What’s one small step you can take right now to break the cycle you’re stuck in?
 
 
 
Today, Jay shares a simple, science-backed method to help you overcome laziness, distraction, and burnout by focusing on consistency instead of motivation. Rather than waiting for the perfect moment or a burst of inspiration, Jay explains how lowering the bar, creating rituals, and going on a dopamine detox can help you rebuild discipline and self-trust, one small action at a time.
 
 
 
It’s not about working harder or chasing perfection, but about starting smaller and showing up consistently. Jay explains how to protect your focus, rewire your reward system, and break the patterns that keep you stuck. Over time, these tiny shifts compound into real transformation, helping you feel more grounded, confident, and in control.
 
 
 
In this episode, you’ll learn: 
 
How to Start When You Feel Stuck
 
How to Build Rituals That Replace Willpower
 
How to Break Free from the Dopamine Addiction Cycle
 
How to Embrace Boredom and Reclaim Focus
 
How to End Each Day with Progress, Not Pressure
 
 
 
Change doesn’t come from motivation. It comes from momentum. When you choose to start small, stay consistent, and keep your promises to yourself, discipline becomes second nature.
 
 
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty. 
 
 
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
 
 
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Introduction
 
0:57 Lower Your Expectations 
 
05:36 Build A Ritual, Not A Routine
 
07:42 24 Hour Dopamine Detox 
 
10:58 Make Bad Habits Hard To Do
 
13:13 Be Bored For 10 Minutes A Day
 
15:10 Reward Effort, Not Results
 
17:24 Turn Your Phone Off For 60 Minutes 
 
18:14 You Can Do Anything for 5 Minutes!
 
21:15 End Your Day With the 3 Minute Review

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I Was Lost, Lazy, & Unmotivated — Until I Did This.

How do you know if someone’s really right for you?
 
 
 
Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong?
 
 
 
Today, Jay brings together four of today’s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn’t about finding “the one,” but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally.
 
 
 
Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real.
 
 
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Build Confidence Through Body Language
 
How to Date Without Burning Out
 
How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
 
How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One
 
How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People
 
How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love
 
 
 
Love isn’t something that happens by accident, it’s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve.
 
 
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty.
 
 
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
 
 
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:50 The Flirtation Signals You’re Missing
 
09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes
 
13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle 
 
16:37 You Shouldn’t Rush Real Love
 
21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships
 
22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life
 
24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People? 
 
26:01 The Real Reason You’re Struggling to Find a Partner
 
27:49 Are Your Standards Too High?
 
29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost?
 
30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want
 
32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship’s Future

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Jays Must Listens: You’re Approaching Dating Wrong! (Use THIS Blueprint to Attract the RIGHT Person) Ft. Vanessa Van Edwards & Jillian Turecki

Do you believe the brain can be trained to manifest?
 
Do you think it’s more about mindset or action?
 
Today, Jay sits down with neuroscientist and creator Emily McDonald to explore how rewiring your brain can transform every area of your life. Emily shares how understanding the science behind your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can help you break free from cycles of fear, self-doubt, and procrastination. She explains that the brain’s natural instinct is to keep you safe, not help you grow, which is why so many people feel stuck even when they’re trying to move forward. Through relatable examples and neuroscience-backed tools, Emily reveals how awareness, intention, and identity shifts can create real and lasting change.
 
Jay and Emily dive into the psychology of motivation, discussing why we often delay the things we care about most and how “cheap dopamine” from social media and instant gratification keeps us from deeper fulfillment. Emily explains how to retrain your brain to crave long-term rewards, not quick hits of pleasure, and how to use self-compassion and small wins to build momentum. Together, she and Jay unpack the science of manifestation, why it’s not about wishing for things to happen but about wiring your brain to become a match for the life you want.
 
In this interview, you'll learn:
 
How to Rewire Your Brain for Change
 
How to Break Free from Feeling Stuck
 
How to Overcome Fear of Success
 
How to Stop Relying on Cheap Dopamine
 
How to Build Motivation Through Self-Reward
 
How to Attract Healthy Love by Becoming a Match for It
 
True transformation doesn’t happen overnight, it begins the moment you decide to understand yourself more deeply. When you learn how your mind works, you realize that every setback, fear, and doubt isn’t a failure, it’s simply your brain trying to protect you.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. 
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
01:00 Relationships Begin with Intention
 
02:39 When Your Identity Keeps You Stuck
 
05:42 The Power of the Labels You Use
 
08:17 Are You Afraid of Being Seen?
 
10:08 Label the Fears Holding You Back
 
12:12 Play Out Every Fear to the End
 
13:48 Stop Chasing Cheap Dopamine!
 
17:31 3 Ways to Naturally Boost Dopamine
 
22:29 The Power of Having Something to Look Forward To
 
25:22 The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything
 
27:00 Why Desperation Blocks Success
 
31:29 Discovering Your Deepest Core Value
 
32:56 The Power of Understanding Your Own Brain
 
39:41 Surround Yourself with Expansive Minds
 
43:07 The 3-Step Science Backed Manifestation Tool
 
47:39 Do You Believe in Divine Timing?
 
49:09 Turning Jealousy into Inspiration
 
51:51 Worthiness Begins with Self-Love
 
56:13 How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs
 
01:02:14 What Are You Building Within Yourself?
 
01:04:19 Let Go of the Need for Approval
 
01:09:53 Love Finds You When You Least Expect It
 
01:15:51 Emily on Final Five
 
Episode Resources:
 
Emily McDonald | Website
 
Emily McDonald | YouTube
 
Emily McDonald | Instagram
 
Emily McDonald | TikTok
 
Emily McDonald | LinkedIn

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Neuroscientist Emily McDonald: #1 Science-Based Hack to Rewire Your Brain to ACTUALLY Manifest the Life You Want

In this first episode of On Purpose with Radhi, Jay opens up a conversation many of us have faced but rarely unpack, being asked, “When are you having kids?” What seems like a casual question often carries a weight that touches on biology, cultural expectations, financial realities, and deeply personal struggles. Together, Jay and Radhi peel back the layers of why this question can feel so triggering, especially for women, and why the assumptions behind it often miss the heart of the matter.
 
They explore how family pressure, societal timelines, and even social media comparisons can make people feel like they’re “behind,” while statistics actually show that having children later in life has become the norm. From the challenges of IVF and miscarriages to the fear of balancing career and motherhood, Jay and Radhi shed light on the unspoken realities couples quietly carry. They remind us that true preparation for parenthood isn’t about perfect timing, it’s about awareness, acceptance, and readiness for change. 
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Handle Pressure About Having Kids
 
How to Prepare for the Real Changes of Parenthood
 
How to Know if You’re Ready for Children
 
How to Separate Society’s Timeline From Your Own
 
How to Support Friends Struggling With Fertility
 
The milestones that matter most are the ones that feel true to you, not the ones dictated by outside voices. Fulfillment is not found in comparison but in living with intention, compassion, and alignment to your own values.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:45 When Are You Going to Have Kids?
 
03:53 So, Do You Want to Have Kids?
 
07:57 Are You Prepared to Raise Kids?
 
12:31 A Different Mindset on Being a Parent
 
16:23 Delaying Parenthood Because of Financial Constraints
 
21:16 Parenthood Equates to Success
 
23:20 Can a Child Fix a Broken Relationship?
 
29:02 Are You Willing to Sacrifice Your Career to Become a Parent?
 
32:32 Live the Life You Want For Yourself
 
Episode Resources:
 
Radhi Devlukia | Website
 
Radhi Devlukia | YouTube
 
Radhi Devlukia | Instagram
 
Radhi Devlukia | Facebook
 
Radhi Devlukia | TikTok
 
Joyfull
 
A Really Good Cry

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Jay & Radhi Talk About the Pressure and Expectations Around Parenthood

Do you have a quick way to reset when you’re overwhelmed?
 
What’s something you wish worked better when you try to reset?
 
Today, Jay introduces a simple yet powerful 7-Day Micro Habit Reset, a series of small, intentional habits to help you pause, realign, and begin again with a clear mind and a calm heart. If you’ve been feeling drained, distracted, or disconnected from your goals, Jay reminds us that meaningful change doesn’t come from completely reinventing your routine, it starts with the small, mindful shifts you make every day.
 
Each habit is grounded in science, simplicity, and self-awareness. Jay explores how small practices, like expressing gratitude, taking a moment to reflect, or even embracing brief moments of discomfort, such as a 20-second cold rinse, can reset your energy, shift your perspective, and build emotional resilience. From writing just one sentence in your journal to checking in with your “future self,” these micro habits help you reclaim the calm and clarity that stress often takes away. This episode is a gentle reminder to slow down, find balance in the chaos, and trust that it’s the small, consistent actions that create real, lasting change.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Reset Your Mind in 3 Breaths
 
How to Start Your Day Without Stress
 
How to Start Your Day with Clarity, Not Chaos
 
How to Create Calm When Life Feels Messy
 
How to Reclaim Time by Resetting Small Habits
 
Change doesn’t have to be overwhelming. It begins with the smallest steps, the quiet moments when you choose to breathe, observe, and reset instead of react.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Introduction
 
01:02 The 3-Breath Reset
 
07:05 Start Your Morning With Natural Light, Not Screens!
 
09:53 The 2-Minute Tidy
 
13:09 The Gratitude Text
 
16:16 The 20-Second Cold Rinse
 
17:48 The 1-Sentence Journal to End the Day with Peace
 
20:02 The “Future You” Check-In

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7 Micro Habits That Will INSTANTLY Reset Your Mind & Boost Energy (Without Changing Your Whole Routine!)

When was the last time you felt truly at ease with someone?
 
Do you feel that kind of ease often, or was it rare?
 
In this special live episode recorded at the DAR Constitution Hall in Washington, D.C., Jay sits down with bestselling author and therapist Lori Gottlieb to explore the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships. Together, they unpack why so many of us feel the need to “perform” for love and how fear of rejection, perfectionism, and old emotional patterns can quietly erode connection. Lori shares how true intimacy begins with acceptance, not just of our partners, but of ourselves, and why showing up authentically is the only way to feel genuinely seen.
 
Through humor, warmth, and real audience interactions, Jay and Lori dive into topics like vulnerability, emotional safety, and the balance between “me time” and “we time.” They share how to stop trying to fix or control your partner, how to communicate without defensiveness, and how to build relationships rooted in curiosity and compassion instead of criticism.
 
This conversation is a reminder that love isn’t about finding someone who reads your mind, it’s about learning each other’s language, embracing imperfections, and creating a safe space where both people can grow.
 
In this interview, you'll learn:
 
How to Stop Performing for Love
 
How to Create Emotional Safety in a Relationship
 
How to Let Your Partner Be Vulnerable
 
How to Build Connection Through Acceptance
 
How to Communicate Without Getting Defensive
 
How to Balance “Me Time” and “We Time”
 
How to Love Without Trying to Fix
 
Love is not a performance, it’s a practice. It’s built in the quiet moments when we choose to listen instead of defend, to understand instead of control, and to show up even when it feels uncomfortable. Every relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, becomes stronger when we replace judgment with curiosity and fear with honesty.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. 
 
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
00:54 Earning Love Through Real Connection
 
03:16 Why You Should Speak Up Early
 
06:51 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability
 
11:20 Can You Love Someone Without Loving Yourself?
 
13:55 How Acceptance Strengthens Your Relationship
 
20:37 Compatibility vs. Chemistry: What Matters More?
 
25:07 Do Couples Need Individual Therapy Too?
 
28:05 A Live Couples Therapy Session
 
44:06 Communicate Clearly Not Through Assumptions
 
47:08 Healthy Ways to Approach Conflict
 
51:28 Understanding the Many Forms of Love
 
57:46 Are Both of Your Needs Being Met?
 
01:01:44 Learning to Embrace and Communicate Differences
 
Episode Resources:
 
Lori Gottlieb | YouTube
 
Lori Gottlieb | Instagram
 
Lori Gottlieb | Website
 
Dear Therapists Podcast
 
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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Lori Gottlieb: Stop Mistaking Calm for Boring! (Follow THIS Simple Rule to Build REAL Love)

Have you ever felt totally off but couldn’t explain why?
 
Did you ever figure out what was causing it?
 
Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Sara Szal, a Harvard- and MIT-trained physician, researcher, and bestselling author, to dive into a topic that affects everyone but rarely gets the attention it deserves: hormones. Together, they break down what hormones really are, how stress and daily habits can throw them off balance, and why understanding these powerful chemical messengers can completely transform the way we think about health. Dr. Sara shares how simple changes, from better sleep and mindful eating to managing stress, can help reset your body’s natural rhythm in just a few days. This is a conversation that beautifully bridges science and self-awareness, revealing just how deeply our biology and emotions are connected.
 
Jay and Dr. Sara also explore one of today’s most misunderstood topics: women’s health and birth control. Dr. Sara explains how the pill, though widely used, can disrupt hormone balance, increase inflammation, and even affect fertility, insights many women never hear about. She breaks down what’s really happening inside the body and offers practical ways to restore balance through nutrition, testing, and natural alternatives. Together, they also discuss how emotional stress and relationships deeply influence hormonal health, and why learning to understand and manage your body’s signals is one of the most empowering steps you can take for your well-being.
 
In this interview, you'll learn:
 
How to Balance Your Hormones Naturally
 
How to Manage Stress and Lower Cortisol 
 
How to Reset Your Body in Just 3 Days
 
How to Heal Fatigue by Listening to Your Body
 
How to Transition Off Birth Control Safely
 
How to Support Fertility and Hormone Health
 
How to Regulate Before You React
 
When you slow down, nourish yourself, and make small, consistent changes, you create space for balance to return. Health isn’t about perfection or control; it’s about awareness, alignment, and kindness toward yourself.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. 
 
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
01:28 What Exactly Are Hormones?
 
02:30 What Causes Hormonal Imbalance?
 
04:02 How to Measure Stress Hormones
 
05:11 When You’re Running on Cortisol
 
06:01 The Truth About Insulin Resistance
 
07:45 How Hormones Differ in Men and Women
 
10:21 Why Measuring the Right Hormones Matters
 
11:30 Simple Ways to Rebalance Your Hormones
 
14:19 Why Estrogen and Progesterone Decline
 
20:19 Why You Should Start with Cortisol
 
22:19 Four Powerful Ways to Reduce Stress
 
24:17 How to Turn Stress into Strength
 
25:58 Breaking Free from Chronic Stress
 
27:52 Everyday Habits to Lower Cortisol
 
30:08 Feeling Low on Energy But Can’t Explain Why? 
 
35:09 How to Decompress and Recenter Yourself
 
39:00 Do Men or Women Heal Faster After a Divorce?
 
41:37 Creating Healthy Emotional Distance
 
43:06 The Power of Boundaries in Healing
 
46:35 People-Pleasing: A Hidden Stress Response
 
49:06 The Biggest Hormonal Shifts in Life
 
53:09 What You Need to Know About Andropause
 
54:09 The Evolution of Birth Control
 
56:24 Painful Periods Are Not Normal!
 
57:23 Lifestyle Fixes for Acne and Hormone Health
 
59:09 The Hidden Long-Term Effects of the Pill
 
01:01:56 How to Reverse the Pill’s Impact
 
01:03:47 Does Birth Control Affect Fertility?
 
01:05:33 The Complexity and Simplicity of Hormones
 
01:08:31 How to Take Ownership of Your Health
 
01:09:36 Is Natural Birth Control Effective?
 
01:11:27 How to Make IUD Insertion Less Painful
 
01:14:05 Getting Pregnant After Birth Control
 
01:16:31 What Science Says About Cycle Syncing
 
01:18:06 How to Safely Transition Off the Pill
 
01:20:41 Where Science Meets Spirituality
 
01:25:49 Sara on Final Five
 
Episode Resources:
 
Dr Sara Szal | Website
 
Dr Sara Szal | Instagram
 
Dr Sara Szal | YouTube
 
Dr Sara Szal | LinkedIn

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Dr. Sara Szal: Stop Ignoring What Your Body’s Trying to Tell You! (THESE Are the Hormone Signals You Can’t Afford to Miss!

Do you ever get stuck in your thoughts?
 
What do you usually overthink about?
 
Today, Jay explores one of the most powerful, yet regularly overlooked, conversations we have every day: the one we have with ourselves. Too often, we become our own harshest critics, speaking to ourselves in ways we’d never speak to a friend. Jay reveals how self-criticism can disguise itself as control or accountability, when in truth, it’s a subtle form of self-sabotage that quietly erodes our confidence, creativity, and motivation.
 
Jay reminds us that rest and reflection aren’t signs of weakness, they’re essential parts of real growth. He explains that progress is never a straight line, and that falling back, slowing down, or taking a break doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it simply means you’re human. His message is a gentle yet powerful invitation to stop tearing yourself down and start lifting yourself up, to trade shame for accountability, criticism for compassion, and restlessness for stillness. Through his words, Jay offers more than advice, he shares a roadmap for healing your relationship with yourself, embracing imperfection with grace, and finding peace in the quiet strength of self-acceptance.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Silence Your Inner Critic
 
How to Talk to Yourself Like a Friend
 
How to Rewire Your Brain for Positivity
 
How to Rest Without Feeling Guilty
 
How to Stop Letting Negativity Control You
 
Healing begins the moment you choose kindness over criticism. Every mistake, setback, or pause is not the end of the journey, it’s part of becoming who you’re meant to be.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
 
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 
 
What We Discuss:
 
01:02 Is Your inner Voice Blocking You?
 
02:16 #1: Self Criticism is Self Sabotage 
 
06:32 #2: Negative Self Talk is Counterproductive
 
10:08 #3: Shaming Yourself Doesn't Build Accountability
 
13:28 #4: Your Brain is Wired to Focus on Mistakes
 
17:24 #5: Progress Isn't Linear
 
20:01 #6: Rest is Essential for Progress
 
22:35 #7: Self Kindness Builds Resilience

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Constantly Overthinking or Doubting Yourself? (Do THIS 5-Minute Reset to Break Your Negative Spiral!)

How do you know when you’re ready to commit?
 
Do you think love alone is enough?
 
Marriage isn’t a destination, it’s a daily practice. It’s the ongoing choice to show up, grow, and recommit to each other through every season of change. In this special compilation, Jay brings together powerful insights from Jada Pinkett Smith, relationship coach Sadia Khan, psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb, and his own reflections with Radhi. Together, they explore how lasting love isn’t built on fleeting chemistry, but on emotional resilience, self-awareness, and the courage to evolve, side by side.
 
Jada shares how marriage can be a spiritual journey, where your partner reflects both your light and your flaws, guiding you toward unconditional love and deeper healing. Sadia reveals the often-overlooked truths about infidelity, self-control, and discipline, reminding us that love cannot thrive without trust. Lori highlights the power of honest communication, from setting boundaries with in-laws to having the tough conversations about money, marriage, and children before it’s too late.
 
In this episode, you'll learn:
 
How to Build Emotional Resilience in Marriage
 
How to Heal and Grow Through Partnership
 
How to Spot Signs of Emotional Distance
 
How to Create Space for Emotional Openness
 
How to Recommit as Your Partner Evolves
 
Every relationship faces challenges, but those moments can become powerful opportunities for growth when met with compassion and openness. The true beauty of love lies in the willingness to listen, to learn, and to keep building something real, together.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty.
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.
 
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 
 
What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
01:28 The Cornerstone of Family Life
 
03:58 When Divorce Feels Like the Only Option
 
08:44 The Power of Unconditional Love
 
14:14 Valuing How People Show Up
 
18:13 Every Marriage Looks Different
 
20:14 Rethinking Traditional Marriage
 
24:13 Do Women or Men Get Cheated on More? 
 
26:19 Choosing a Man with Self-Control
 
27:59 Why Sexual Discipline Matters
 
29:45 Don’t Ignore These Red Flags!
 
32:35 Staying Attuned to Your Partner
 
34:28 Talk About Marriage Before the Proposal
 
37:43 Why a Baby Won’t Fix a Marriage
 
40:41 When Your Partner Doesn’t Stand Up for You
 
46:36 Building a Safe Space for Connection

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Jay’s Must-Listens: Marriage Isn’t About Finding “The One” (5 Truths Every Couple Needs to Hear Before Marriage!)

Have you ever stayed in a relationship just to avoid being alone?
 
Did staying make you feel better or worse over time?
 
Today, Jay sits down with writer and relationship coach Quinlan Walther to explore what it truly means to build healthy, lasting relationships. Quinlan, known for her viral reflections on love and self-trust, explains the difference between wanting a relationship and being ready for one. She compares it to grocery shopping when you’re hungry, a reminder that desperation often drives us to make poor emotional choices. Together, they explore how self-awareness, emotional safety, and self-trust form the foundation for a genuine connection. Quinlan introduces her “Four C’s of Self-Trust”: curiosity, capacity, compassion, and commitment, a framework for strengthening one’s relationship with the self before seeking partnership.
 
Jay and Quinlan confront the hard truths about modern love, how expectations, attachment wounds, and emotional burnout often distort our perception of what love should feel like. They explore the difference between chemistry and compatibility, reminding listeners that while excitement can spark a connection, it’s shared values and emotional maturity that sustain it. Quinlan emphasizes that relationships are not meant to fill our emptiness but to reflect our growth. Through stories and practical wisdom, she explains how the healthiest relationships allow space for vulnerability, accountability, and change, rather than perfection. Jay reflects on his own marriage, highlighting how communication, patience, and self-reflection create emotional safety and deepen love over time.
 
In his interview, you'll learn:
 
How to Know If You’re Ready for Love
 
How to Build Self-Trust Before Dating
 
How to Create Emotional Safety in Relationships
 
How to Tell Chemistry from Compatibility
 
How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt
 
How to Heal After a Breakup
 
How to Stop Repeating Unhealthy Patterns
 
How to Grow Together Without Losing Yourself
 
Real connection isn’t about finding someone to fix or complete us, it’s about growing into the version of ourselves that can give and receive love freely. Every heartbreak, disappointment, and moment of self-reflection brings us closer to understanding that love begins within.
 
With Love and Gratitude,
 
Jay Shetty
 
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. 
 
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What We Discuss:
 
00:00 Intro
 
01:24 Wanting vs. Being Ready for Love
 
04:07 The Four C’s of Self-Trust
 
06:41 Relationships Should Help You Grow
 
10:32 Building Stability and Emotional Safety
 
13:27 When Requests Become Unreasonable
 
15:15 Love Within Someone’s Capacity
 
17:57 Are You Exhausted From Dating? 
 
22:05 Does the Spark Really Matter?
 
23:28 When Attraction Misleads You
 
25:16 Compatibility vs. Chemistry
 
27:52 How Black-and-White Thinking Hurts Love
 
31:10 Is Love Alone Ever Enough?
 
32:43 What True Commitment Looks Like
 
36:39 Learning to Show Up for Yourself
 
39:35 Healing Family Wounds and Finding Peace
 
42:19 Breaking the Criticism–Withdrawal Cycle
 
49:31 Your Partner Reflects How You Love Yourself
 
51:14 Dating is Discernment, Marriage is Devotion
 
55:16 Real Change Takes Time
 
58:10 Why Every Relationship Needs Boundaries
 
59:47 How to Set Healthy Boundaries
 
01:01:21 Stop Compromising Your Own Boundaries
 
01:02:42 Are Soulmates Real?
 
01:05:01 What Should Love Feel Like?
 
01:08:59 Do You Want a Partner or a Spouse?
 
01:13:11 How to Move On After a Breakup
 
01:16:47 You Are Not Hard to Love
 
01:19:32 The Lessons Hidden in a Heartbreak
 
01:21:40 Quinlan on Final Five
 
Episode Resources:
 
Quinlan Walther | Website
 
Quinlan Walther | Instagram
 
Quinlan Walther | TikTok
 
Quinlan Walther | YouTube

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Quinlan Walther: Stop Chasing Love Just Because You’re Lonely! (Do THIS to Attract the RIGHT Relationship)

How many times have you made goals and resolutions and they have just failed every single year? My prayer for each and every single one of you is to have a meaningful, fulfilling, purposeful 2020 so that you can transform your life. 
 
This is a completely unique & different goal setting framework that you've never learned. Don't keep applying the same things that failed every year. A new decade needs a new approach and these are the tools needed to win the year! Text Jay Shetty 310-997-4177
 
 

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The 4-Tier Framework To Effective Goal Setting & Why You’ve Failed In The Past

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