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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

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The Psychology of your 20s

Hitting rock bottom is one of the most painful human experiences - when the future is blurry, the past feels heavy, and you barely recognize the person staring back in the mirror. Maybe it’s the end of a relationship, losing your job, battling addiction, or simply feeling like everything you built has crumbled. In this episode, we explore what those lowest points really feel like, why we sometimes end up there, and how, against all odds, they can become the very place where healing and transformation begin.
 
We explore:
 
• What rock bottom feels like
• The role of identity collapse and self-concept clarity
• Passivity, external locus of control, and addiction as routes to rock bottom
• Our dark night of the soul and searching for meaning
• Why rock bottom can motivate change
• 5 tips climbing out and rebuilding self-concept
 
If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lost control, lost yourself, or lost your way - this episode is for you.
 
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
 
 

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339. The psychology of rock bottom

In this bonus release, I am sharing an episode of my other podcast, MANTRA. This week's mantra is I Am Not Here to Manage Other People’s Emotions. It's a common trap to feel responsible for the feelings of those around us, often at the expense of our own emotional well-being. But true empathy means holding space for others without taking on their emotional burden or feeling obligated to fix their feelings.
 
In this episode of Mantra, we'll explore how to set healthy emotional boundaries, distinguish between compassion and co-dependency, and prioritize your own inner peace. Releasing the need to manage others' emotions isn't about being uncaring; it's about empowering yourself and allowing others to navigate their own emotional landscapes. This Mantra will help you reclaim your energy, honor your boundaries, and cultivate healthier, more authentic relationships.
 
 
 
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I Am Not Here To Manage Other People's Emotions

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions, clouded by stigma and misinformation. In this episode, we take a compassionate, research-based look at what BPD really is, where it comes from, and how people living with it can find healing and stability. From exploring the biological underpinnings and role of trauma, to the impact on relationships and the remarkable effectiveness of treatments like DBT and SCM, we look at both the challenges and hope.
 
We’ll explore:
 
• What BPD feels like and the key symptoms
• The biosocial model: how biology and the environment intertwine
• The impact BPD has on relationships and attachment
• Stigma, myths, and gendered assumptions around diagnosis
• Why loneliness is high, and support is essential
• How DBT and Structured Clinical Management help people adapt
• The encouraging truth about recovery and long-term prognosis
 
If you’ve ever wanted to learn more about this misunderstood condition, this episode is for you. 
 
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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338. The psychology of borderline personality disorder (BPD)

From Myers-Briggs to the Big Five, almost all of us at some stage have done a personality test. Whether it labelled you an introvert or extrovert, a big thinker or a small details individual, it's easy to get swept up in the idea that these tests can tell us all we need to know about our personality and identity. But are they legit, and what is the science behind them? In today's episode, we break down: 
 
 • The scientific basis for personality tests
 • The interesting, feminist history behind personality tests 
 • Reliability vs. validity vs. relatability
 • Why we end up believing what we read 
 • How to actually use personality tests to your advantage 
 
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
 
 

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337. Are personality tests legit?

In our twenties, the feedback sources that once defined our worth - grades, report cards, and parental praise - start to disappear. This leaves a void, which many of us instinctively turn to external sources like social media, career achievements, and the opinions of others, to fill. And while this external validation isn’t inherently bad, we need to be mindful of refilling our own sense of self before becoming reliant on others.
 
In this episode, we discuss why a life built on others' approval is like living on quicksand and how to cultivate a sturdy, reliable sense of self that will withstand the inevitable ebb and flow of external opinions. 
 
We’ll explore:
 
• The difference between external and internal validation
• Why our brains are wired to seek social approval
• The looking glass self and the inherent need to belong
• How contingent self-esteem can quietly erode confidence
• How to recognise when you’re outsourcing your self-worth
• Balancing feedback without letting it define you
 
If the number of likes on your Instagram post has ever dictated how you feel - this episode is for you.
 
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
 
 

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336. Why do we crave external validation?

We often think that once we've made a decision, or said we believe something, or stated something about ourselves, we must always stay the same and can never change our minds. That is entirely incorrect - being able to say "I was wrong" or "this isn't me anymore" show incredible psychological strength. Being able to quit and start again is often the start of a truly fulfilled life. In today's episode we discuss how being okay with changing your mind can: 
 
 • Help us make better decisions
 • Overcome disappointing others 
 • Reduce our fear of judgement 
 • Lead to a more fulfilled life + so much more 
 
Listen now!
 
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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335. It's okay to change your mind

We live in a world full of opinions, advice, and expectations - and somewhere in the noise, our own inner voice can get drowned out. Learning to trust yourself sounds simple, but in practice it’s a hard skills to build. Doubt, fear of mistakes, and the pressure to “get it right” often pull us away from what we already know deep down. 
 
In this episode, we explore the psychology of self-trust: how it develops, why it falters, and what it really means to listen to yourself in a culture that constantly tells you to look outward for answers.
 
We’ll explore:
• Why self-trust is so crucial in this decade
• Self-trust as the antidote to anxiety
• How self-trust is shaped by early experiences and current circumstances
• Small ways to practice trusting yourself again
• Why trusting yourself is less about certainty and more about self-respect
 
If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself into exhaustion, or felt like your inner compass has gone quiet, this episode is for you.
 
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For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 
 
 
 
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

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334. How to fully trust yourself

Hate is one of those emotions we don’t like to admit we feel – it’s messy, intense, and often laced with guilt. But it’s also deeply human. It can flare up in obvious moments of conflict, or linger quietly as resentment, judgment, or mistrust. But it’s how we engage with it that makes the big difference. In this episode, we explore the reasons we love to hate - where it comes from, why it’s so powerful, and the ways it can both protect and harm us. We’ll look at how it spreads in a hyperconnected world, and ways we can respond to it if we feel it in ourselves or from others.
 
We’ll explore:
• The roots of hatred in group identity, safety and insecurity
• Why hating can feel good 
• Personality traits of trolls
• Why our biggest critics can be those closest to us
• How hate affects our mind and body
• How to stop being a hater, and how to respond to hate from others
 
If you want to explore this difficult emotion without judgement, this episode is for you.
 
 
 
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For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 
 
 
 
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
 
 
 
 

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333. Why do we love to hate?

We all want to know the secret to true, lasting love so that we can perhaps have a shot at finding it. So in today's episode, we're breaking down perhaps the most famous theory on this very topic, Robert Sternbery's Triangular Theory of Love. In this episode, we talk about: 
 
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The 3 core ingredients of love: intimacy, passion, commitment
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How different combinations form different kinds of relationships
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Why “consummate love” is so rare, and hard to maintain
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What the theory leaves out: culture, trust, respect, asexuality, polyamory 
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A look at the newer “quadruple theory” of love 
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Listen now! 
 
 
 
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
 
 
 
 

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332. The triangular theory of love

We often see pets as just a part of our daily lives - the ones who greet us at the door, curl up beside us, or demand breakfast at 6 a.m. sharp. But behind those everyday moments lies a bond that’s shaped by millions of years of co-evolution and a deep emotional connection that can transform us. In this episode, we look at the psychology of our relationships with our pets - how they are so transformative, soothe our stress, shift our moods, and even change the way we relate to other people. Pets aren’t just companions; they can become anchors in times of change, mirrors for our emotions, and constant reminders of simple joy.
 
We’ll explore:
• The science of why we bond so strongly with animals
• How our pets mirror our mental health
• Survival of the cutest
• The pain of losing a childhood pet, and disenfranchised grief
• FOUR key questions to ask yourself if you’re thinking of committing to a pet
 
Whether you’re a proud pet parent or just curious about why humans are so drawn to animals, this episode is for you.
 
 
 
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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.
 
 
 
 

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331. How pets change your life

This week on the podcast we are breaking down the psychology of our dreams - why we dream, the role of our brain, what our dreams mean, repressed desires, nightmares and even the role of daydreaming for our mental wellbeing. If you've ever wondered about your weird dreams, some of the scientific theories and whether you are a maladaptive daydreamer, this episode is for you as we jump into the fascinating science and psychology behind these imaginative, colourful hallucinations. Listen now!

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88. The psychology of dreams

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