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Mark Manson

Mark Manson is a three-time #1 New York Times bestselling author and 20-year personal development industry veteran. Solved is the most comprehensive, evidence-based, overly-researched podcast on the planet to help you get an issue in your life, err... solved.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast

What does it actually mean to live like a Stoic? In this wide-ranging conversation with bestselling author and modern Stoicism evangelist Ryan Holiday, we unpack the origins of Stoic philosophy, why it exploded during turbulent times in ancient Greece and Rome, and how its principles—like courage, temperance, justice, and wisdom—still apply in a world filled with chaos, anxiety, and uncertainty. From shipwrecked merchants to emperors journaling their fears, this episode explores why some of the most powerful figures in history turned to Stoicism not just for answers—but for survival.

We also dig into how Stoicism overlaps with modern psychology, why it’s gaining traction among young men, and whether its rising popularity is being misunderstood or misused. If you’ve ever wondered whether Stoicism means being emotionless, if it’s compatible with ambition, or if it actually makes you a better person, this episode is your one-stop masterclass.

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Produced by Drew Birnie
Research by Zenya Giatzoglou, Katherine Wei, & Gage Greer
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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:49 Setting the Scene: Ancient Greece After Alexander

06:44 The Story of Zeno: Founder of Stoicism

13:58 The Four Stoic Virtues

44:20 Virtue 1: Courage

53:17 Virtue 2: Temperance (Discipline)

1:05:01 Virtue 3: Justice

1:08:51 Virtue 4: Wisdom

1:25:51 Roman Conquest and the Spread of Stoicism

1:33:10 Cato the Younger: The Stoic Martyr

1:39:06 Seneca: The Conflicted Philosopher

1:55:50 Epictetus: The Slave Philosopher

2:07:28 Marcus Aurelius: The Philosopher Emperor

2:20:18 Stoicism Through History

2:32:45 Stoicism and Modern Psychology

2:41:09 The Modern Stoicism Revival

2:50:06 Final Thoughts and Recommendations
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A Comprehensive Guide to Stoicism (ft. Ryan Holiday)

Resilience isn’t about pretending you’re fine or never feeling pain—it’s about learning how to act in your best interest despite the pain. In this episode of Solved, we dive deep into the science, psychology, and real-life examples of resilience—from Ernest Shackleton’s crew surviving two years stranded in Antarctica to my own slightly insane decision to run an endurance race with basically no training. Spoiler: I didn’t die.

We cover it all: the biology of resilience, why some people are “dandelions” and thrive anywhere while others are “orchids” who need the right environment, the mindsets that let you push through hardship without losing your mind, and why humor and community might secretly be your best survival tools. And of course, we deliver the real, practical, evidence-based strategies you can actually apply when life inevitably decides to kick you in the teeth.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like you can’t take one more setback, this episode is for you. And if you’re one of those psychos who enjoys doing hard sh*t just to see what you’re made of… well, you’ll feel right at home here.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/resilience

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

04:44 Chapter 1: Reframing Resilience — Definitions & Misconceptions

13:11 The Word That Started It All

16:30 Bounce Forward, Not Back

23:50 Chapter 2: Developmental and Biological Foundations of Resilience

29:26 The Evolutionary Puzzle

38:54 Chapter 3: Biological & Physiological Foundations

44:45 Training Your Brain to Be More Resilient

48:43 The HPA Axis: Our Central Stress Response System

51:19 Heart Rate Variability: The Resilience Rhythm

54:32 Physiological Interventions

1:00:07 Gut-Brain Axis

1:17:17 Chapter 4: Psychological, Philosophical & Evidence-Based Frameworks

1:20:19 The 5 Mindsets of Resilience

1:21:46 Mindset #1: Anything Is Possible

1:38:22 Mindset #2: Stories Are Just Stories

1:44:16 MIndset #3: Focus on What You Control

1:58:55 Mindset #4: Make It Fun

2:10:34 Mindset #5: Assume a Resilient Identity

2:20:21 Pheidippides

2:27:00 Chapter 5: Sociocultural & Community Dimensions

2:37:40 Social Connection and Resilience: Why Strong People Don't Go It Alone

2:45:33 Blitz Spirit: Myth vs Reality

2:48:23 How to Build Your Resilient Circle

2:57:28 Chapter 6: The 80/20 of Becoming More Resilient

3:11:36 The Hidden Costs of Resilience

3:22:25 What We Learned

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How to Become Resilient

Chances are, there’s something in your life you feel deeply ashamed about—something you’ve never told anyone, something you can’t even admit to yourself. In this episode, we go deep into the emotion we all experience but almost no one wants to talk about: shame. Where it comes from, why it’s so powerful, how it screws up our lives—and more importantly, how to deal with it.

We cover the biology of shame, the psychology, the evolutionary roots, and how modern life (especially the internet) completely messes with our shame systems. We talk about healthy vs. toxic shame, how it shows up in addiction, relationships, perfectionism, and self-sabotage, and why most of us either try to hide from it or end up being controlled by it. You’ll also hear from members of my team about how shame shaped their lives in surprising ways.

As always, this episode is brutally honest, deeply researched, and sprinkled with a few bad jokes. But more than anything, I hope it gives you the awareness—and the tools—to start facing whatever it is you’ve been avoiding. Because you can’t outrun your shame. But you can learn to live with it.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/shame

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Chapters
00:00:00 Introduction
00:04:35 Chapter 1: Shame's Hidden Architecture
00:14:38 Chapter 2: Key Definitions
00:18:32 Distinguishing Shame from Guilt
00:20:49 State Shame vs. Trait Shame
00:21:47 Shame vs. Embarrassment and Humiliation
00:24:03 Shame, Trauma, and their Interrelationship
00:25:14 Chapter 3: The Neurobiology of Shame
00:29:56 The Shame Spiral
00:36:04 The Learning Paradox of Shame
00:44:12 Chapter 4: The Shame Compass
00:47:33 Personal Experiences with Shame
00:49:21 Workaholism as a Coping Mechanism
00:59:13 The Allure of Shamelessness
01:01:15 Chapter 5: Individual, Familial, & Cultural Sources of Shame
01:11:05 Geographical Impact on Shame
01:13:08 Cultural Values and Shame
01:14:35 How the Greater Culture Shapes Shame
01:26:12 Chapter 6: Digital Technology & Shame 2.0
01:28:02 The Digital Divide
01:31:05 The Relationship Between Technology and Anxiety
01:33:55 Protection Strategies
01:39:21 Chapter 7: Developmental Stages of Shame
01:40:19 Understanding the Origin of Shame
01:42:57 The Role of Parenting in Shame Development
01:56:49 Chapter 8: How Therapy Transformed Our Understanding of Shame
02:01:06 Carl Rogers and the Safety Revolution
02:07:31 Albert Ellis and the Cognitive Revolution
02:11:58 The Influence of Albert Ellis and Carl Rogers
02:13:31 The Emergence of Reparenting and Inner Child Work
02:17:18 The Rise of Internal Family System
02:20:24 Brene Brown's Work on Shame
02:27:59 Chapter 9: Tools to Address Your Shame
02:40:19 Stoic Principles for Perspective
02:47:05 Perspective Shifting Techniques
02:58:26 Chapter 10: Tuning Your Shame System
03:10:39 Recognizing Unsustainable Shame Patterns
03:16:28 Kristen Neff's Self-Compassion Framework
03:25:33 Understanding Shame as Obsession and Resentment
03:29:53 Overcoming Shame and Personal Growth
03:31:39 Takeaways fr...
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How to Let Go of Your Shame

Everyone’s obsessed with being happy—but what if that obsession is the very thing making us miserable? In this episode of Solved, Drew and I explore what actually makes us feel good—and why most of us are chasing it in all the wrong ways.

We unpack what philosophers like Aristotle and the Buddha got right thousands of years ago—and how modern science is just now catching up. We talk about hedonic vs. eudaimonic happiness, why more money and status don’t necessarily move the needle, and why most self-help advice completely misses the point. Happiness isn’t something you get. It’s a side effect of doing the right things for the right reasons.

So, if you're tired of chasing "more" and ready to actually feel a little less miserable, this one’s for you.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/happiness

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Chapters:

0:00 Introduction
10:42 Chapter 1: The Origins of Human Happiness
11:04 Hedonia vs Eudaimonia
15:11 Epicureanism
23:20 Eastern Perspectives
27:15 Modern Happiness Research
29:30 Chapter 2: The WEIRD Problem: When Happiness Research Goes West
40:47 Chapter 3: The Three Components of Happiness
46:44 Hedonic Adaptation
59:53 Chapter 4: What Does—and Doesn't—Make Us Happy
1:00:35 Drugs and Alcohol
1:07:23 Sex
1:15:09 Money
1:23:10 Fame and Status
1:37:26 Geography and Environment
1:39:51 Love and Relationships
1:41:19 Friendships
1:44:04 Having Children
1:49:10 The Experiencing vs. Remembering Self
1:52:53 Chapter 5: Baseline vs. Circumstantial vs. Intentional Happiness
1:53:35 Genetics
1:59:50 Circumstances
2:02:16 Intentional Actions
2:06:13 Relationships
2:10:51 Gratitude
2:13:13 Altruism
2:18:47 Experiences vs. Stuff
2:22:12 Implementing Intentional Happiness
2:24:21 Chapter 6: Don't Pursue Happiness; Remove Unhappiness 
2:29:05 Social Comparison
2:31:30 Maximizers vs. Satisficers
2:34:19 Chapter 7: How Happiness Changes Across the Lifespan
2:51:44 Chapter 8: Happiness Myths
3:04:47 Chapter 9: The 80/20 Guide to Happiness 
3:16:22 Lessons Learned 

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How To Finally Let Yourself Be Happy

What are emotions? Why do we feel anything at all? And more importantly — can we actually get better at feeling?

In this episode, Drew and I dive headfirst into what might be the hardest question in all of psychology: what the actual f**k are emotions? We break down the biology, neuroscience, evolution, culture, and even language that shape how we feel — and why we often don’t understand what the hell is going on inside us. From ancient philosophy to brain scans, this is a deep (and occasionally weird) look into the emotional chaos that makes us human.

We unpack everything from the origins of emotional intelligence (spoiler: it might be BS) to the science of emotional regulation, attachment styles, and the sneaky ways your culture wires your emotional defaults. Along the way, we explore why some relationships make you feel like a better person while others drain the life out of you, and how trauma, genetics, and childhood with your ability to keep it together.

But this episode isn’t just about understanding emotions — it’s about learning how to work with them. And we give you a full emotional toolkit: a set of evidence-based tools to help you manage your emotions, build better relationships, feel more motivated, and yes — even feel more confident in yourself in the process.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/emotions

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Chapters:
0:00:00 Introduction
0:04:47 Chapter 1: What Are Emotions?
0:14:04 The Emotional Brain
0:22:03 Neurotransmitters
0:34:25 Evolution of Emotions
0:39:53 How Life Experiences Shape Emotional Regulation
0:48:41 Conclusion on What are Emotions
0:49:45 Chapter 2: How Culture Influences Our Emotions
0:55:44 Vietnam Bike Story
1:00:05 Your Culture Trains You to Want Certain Feelings
1:06:00 Culture Decides Whether Suppression is a Superpower or a Liability
1:07:56 Paradox of Emotional Conformity
1:16:36 How Language Shapes What You Feel
1:29:23 Emotional Complexity
1:36:25 Your Emotions Are Social Currency
1:43:00 Conclusion to Culture defines our emotions
1:44:08 Chapter 3: Historical and Philosophical Traditions on Emotions
1:57:21 Modern Culture
1:59:00 Chapter 4: The Four Schools of Emotional Regulation
2:00:56 The Heart
2:08:55 The Head
2:18:37 The Soul
2:28:50 The Body
2:36:23 The Integrated Toolkit
2:48:25 Chapter 5: Brilliant or Bullshit: Emotional Intelligence
2:57:31 Chapter 6: Relationships and Emotional Regulation
3:09:54 Attachment Theory
3:27:29 Toxic Relationship
3:36:49 Building Emotional Compatibility
3:51:24 Conclusion Relationships
3:57:24 Chapter 7: 80/20

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How to Manage Your Emotions

In this second episode of Solved, Drew and I go deep into the psychology, history, and science of procrastination. From Plato and Aristotle to Freud and modern research, we break down why we delay the things that matter most—and how to actually stop.This isn't a “just set a timer” productivity talk. We’re diving deep into shame, identity, perfectionism, culture, and why procrastination is ultimately a *skill issue*, not a moral failure. We cover things like:- How humans have thought about putting things off for over 2000 years- The real reason you avoid the most important tasks in your life- Why “I work better under pressure” is (usually) BS- Why self-compassion is actually more motivating than guilt- Tons of practical, research-backed strategies you can start using todayAnd much, much, much more.
We also put together a free companion guide with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here : https://solvedpodcast.com/procrastination

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Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:05 Episode Roadmap
08:20 What exactly is procrastination?
15:50 Plato's Thoughts on Procrastination
24:07 The Buddhist & Confucian Views on Procrastination
26:19 ﻿﻿Aristotle's Take on Procrastination
33:50 ﻿﻿Christianity and Procrastination
46:53 ﻿﻿Self-Compassion and Procrastination
58:45 ﻿﻿The Reformation and Procrastination
1:04:25 Freud's Influence on Psychology
1:06:40 Pleasure Principle and Reality Principle
1:08:13 Id, Ego, and Superego
1:10:26 Defense Mechanisms
1:17:20 ﻿﻿Adopting Habits as Identity
1:23:05 The Influence of Childhood and Parenting on Procrastination
1:33:42 Behaviorism
1:41:21 Environmental Design
1:46:10 ﻿﻿Thriving Under Pressure: A Critique
1:52:10 ﻿﻿Expectation, Pressure, and Procrastination
1:54:06 ﻿﻿Critique of Behaviorism
1:59:20 Time Management
2:07:33 ﻿﻿Knowledge vs Emotion in Procrastination
2:16:43 Mark and Drew's Personal Productivity Systems
2:20:37 ﻿﻿Deep Work and Task Management
2:23:12 ﻿﻿Productivity System for ADHD
2:29:26 ﻿﻿Productive Procrastination
2:34:22 ﻿﻿Importance of Task Completion
2:36:51 Existentialism and Purpose
2:44:21 ﻿﻿Purpose and Motivation
2:53:40 Temporal Motivation Theory
2:57:39 ﻿﻿Limitations of Temporal Motivation Theory
2:59:22 ﻿﻿The Role of Technology in Procrastination
3:07:10 ﻿﻿...
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How to Stop Procrastinating

Welcome to the first episode of the Solved Podcast. Today, we are solving your values.

Over eight years ago, I wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck—a book that, underneath all the swearing and irreverence, was really about one thing: values. What do you care about? What’s actually worth your time, your energy, your life?

So in this kickoff episode of SOLVED, Drew and I are going deep into why your values are the foundation of everything—your happiness, your mental health, your relationships, your sense of meaning—and why so many of us today feel so lost.

We break down the difference between chasing cheap dopamine hits and building real fulfillment, why not all values are created equal, how to figure out what your true values are, how to change your values, how to start living out your values more fully, and how values silently shape your decisions and relationships every day. If you’ve ever felt stuck, directionless, or like you’re living someone else’s life, this episode is the wake-up call you need. It’s time to stop drifting through life and start giving a fck about the right things. Forget the rest.

Welcome to SOLVED.

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Chapters
00:00 Welcome to SOLVED
07:47 Episode Roadmap
09:31 CHAPTER 1: What are Values?
10:26 Characteristics of Values
14:23 Values vs. Psychological Needs vs. Preferences
23:06 Schwartz's Values Wheel
30:36 Instrumental and Terminal Values
32:15 Hierarchy of Values
38:35 Values Conflict
42:35 Carol Ryff's Six Dimensions of Psychological Well-being
57:01 Aristotle's Golden Mean as Virtue
1:05:01 CHAPTER 2: Values and Your Relationships
1:22:56 The Clash of Values in Relationships
1:30:29 Identifying and Navigating Values in Relationships
1:34:40 Understanding Compatibility Through Values
1:37:25 CHAPTER 3: Where Do Values Come From?
1:38:20 Margaret Mead's Cultural Relativism
1:47:55 Mary Douglas's and the Grid-Group Framework
1:56:20 Jonathan Haidt's Moral Foundations Theory
2:09:26 The Allegory of the Taco Truck
2:14:34 CHAPTER 4: Identifying Your Core Values
2:16:58 Thought Experiments to Find Your Values
2:32:16 The Instrumental Value of Golf
2:41:45 The Role of Trauma in Value Change
2:48:53 CHAPTER 5: How to Change Your Values
2:50:44 Kazimierz Dabrowski and Positive Disintegration
3:03:22 On Cults and Cognitive Dissonance
3:16:26 Self-Confrontation and Value Change
3:18:34 Charlie Munger's Maxim: Incentives and Behavior
3:21:56 CHAPTER 6: Lessons and Takeaways
3:36:30 T...
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How to Find and Live by Your Values

New podcast launches May 1st! We'll be releasing on this same feed, so all you have to do is stay subscribed to this channel and you'll get all the new episodes as they come out.
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After more than 70 episodes and 30 million downloads, I’ve decided to shut down The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast. Yeah, I know—sounds a little crazy. But the truth is, I wasn’t having fun anymore. The guest treadmill, the pressure to play nice, the temptation to chase clicks instead of meaning—it all started to feel fake. So, I’m pulling the plug.

BUT—I’m not going away. I’m launching something new. It’s called Solved—a no-ads, no-guests, deep-dive podcast where each episode tackles one major life topic and breaks it down thoroughly. Think: values, emotions, procrastination—done right, from every angle, with real research and clear implementation. It’s the podcast I wish already existed. So I’m making it. First episode drops May 1 st!

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The Last Podcast

I’ve got a special episode for you today. I sat down in person with my longtime friend and first-ever podcast guest, Derek Sivers. We haven’t recorded live before, and honestly, it shows—in the best way. It’s raw, weird, and filled with the kind of conversations we usually when we’re just hanging out together.
We dig into Derek’s new book, Useful, Not True, and the big idea behind it: that our beliefs don’t need to be true to be helpful. That spins off into everything from remixing creative influences (metal + Dixieland jazz, anyone?) to why most podcasts—including mine—have gotten painfully predictable. We talk artistic reinvention, Bob Dylan, Bowie, Miles Davis, why most “thought leaders” are just regurgitating each other’s ideas, and why I'm ending the podcast as you know it—and what’s next!
We also dive into the deeper stuff: the emotional power of belief, authenticity vs. performative vulnerability, therapy culture, and why sometimes the most liberating thing you can do is reject what everyone else thinks is necessary—relationships, kids, all of it.
This was one of the most honest, meandering, and creatively energizing conversations I’ve had in a while. If you’re into big questions, unconventional ideas, and the occasional musical metaphor, this one’s for you.

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How to Find the Mindsets that Work For You (ft. Derek Sivers)

In this episode, Drew and I dive into some of the biggest beliefs we’ve shifted over the years—and what it actually looks like to change your mind.
We talk about Drew’s evolving views on religion, why I’m way less convinced that people are as changeable as we like to believe, and why I think trauma might be getting a little too much airtime in the self-help world.
We also get into the loneliness epidemic, the quiet power of community, and why so much of “personal growth” isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about learning to work with who you already are.
Leave a comment below about what you’ve changed your mind about—and enjoy.

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00:00 Intro: What we've changed our minds about
02:59 Religion
07:40 Where does belief change start?
17:08 Does Mark stand by his books?
18:06 Why change is so hard
30:27 Trauma doesn't determine destiny
37:52 Cautious optimism

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How to Change Your Mind Without Losing Yourself

Let's be honest: the modern dating landscape is a shit show. From declining marriage rates and rising infidelity to the nightmare of using dating apps—it's brutal out there.
With all these supposedly "easy" ways to meet new people, why are the people who want long-term, stable relationships so fed up with the dating world?
I invited dating and relationships coach Sadia Khan on the pod to discuss how the skills we use to excel in modern dating often sabotage long-term happiness.
Sadia brings a refreshing, thought-provoking perspective to the conversation that will help you navigate the complexities of today's dating world. We dive into the role of self-esteem in successful relationships, the pitfalls of modern dating advice, and the skewed expectations shaped by social media, dating apps, and pornography.
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How Modern Dating Became Such a Dumpster Fire (ft. Sadia Khan)

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