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Mark Manson

Mark Manson is a three-time #1 New York Times bestselling author and 20-year personal development industry veteran. Solved is the most comprehensive, evidence-based, overly-researched podcast on the planet to help you get an issue in your life, err... solved.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast

This is the episode I’ve been waiting to make for a long time. Purpose has been at the core of everything I’ve written and done for over a decade—and in this episode, we go all the way down the rabbit hole. From Viktor Frankl surviving Auschwitz to the myth of “finding your one true purpose,” we break down what purpose really is, why you feel lost without it, and how you can build it into your life.

We also get uncomfortable (in the best way) and talk about the dark side of purpose—how it can burn you out, trap you in toxic ambition, or become an excuse to ruin your life.

And I have a very special announcement to make: Today, I’m launching a new app called Purpose. It’s an AI-powered mentor for personal growth. You talk to it about whatever you’re facing—stress, decisions, conflicts, goals—and it helps you make sense of things. Purpose listens, reflects back what matters most, and turns big challenges into small, actionable steps. The more you use it, the more personalized and helpful it becomes.

Get started in the app with a free course on finding your purpose at

https://purpose.app/solved

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with takeaways and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/purpose

Chapters:
(00:00) Introduction
(01:39) Victor Frankl and Finding Purpose in the Darkness
(17:20) Chapter 1: Foundations: What Is Purpose?
(25:44) Myths
(32:50) Definition
(34:55) Health
(39:22) Resilience and Purpose
(45:34) Chapter 2: Philosophical & Historical Perspectives on Purpose
(52:47) Religion and Purpose
(58:31) Descartes
(1:00:11) Hume
(1:04:51) Nietzsche
(1:17:43) Kierkegaard
(1:22:50) Ernest Becker
(1:30:16) Picasso
(1:31:26) Chapter 3: The Psychology of Purpose
(1:36:38) Relationships
(1:45:40) Ego Identity
(1:49:19) Social Aspect of Purpose
(1:52:32) Religiosity
(2:05:14) Going back to Religion
(2:08:13) Chapter 4: The Four Stages of Life
(2:19:41) Trade off to Purpose
(2:23:48) Transitioning in Purpose
(2:31:33) Chapter 5: The Dark Side of Purpose
(2:40:38) Purpose App
(2:51:36) Burnout
(2:54:29) Toxic Purpose
(3:07:25) Chapter 6: Finding and Cultivating Purpose
(3:27:04) Breakdown on finding Purpose
(3:36:56) Chapter 7: Finding Purpose in Work (or Not)
(3:52:55) Parenting
(4:01:00) Contributing to your community
(4:04:05) Hobbies
(4:09:14) Chapter 8: Practical Tools and Frameworks
(4:20:18) Purpose Setting
(4:22:17) Finding the right tool
(4:24:48) Chapter 9: The 80/20 of Living with Purpose
(4:34:24) Takeaways
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Finding Your Purpose, Solved

We all compare ourselves to other people—our friends, coworkers, strangers on the internet—and most of the time, it makes us feel like shit. But why do we keep doing it? In this episode of Solved, we dig into the uncomfortable truth behind social comparison, how it quietly ruins our self-worth, and why most of what we envy in others is a projection of our own insecurity.

We also get into the brutal paradox of success, the toxic loop of chasing status, and how the constant measurement of our lives against others is one of the dumbest things we do as a species. If you’ve ever felt not good enough, or like you’re falling behind, this one’s for you.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/socialcomparison

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Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

5:29 Chapter 1: Evolutionary Roots

16:20 The Emotional Toolkit

20:18 Chapter 2: Philosophy and Social Comparison

23:31 The Buddhist Path

24:58 Aristotle

34:34 Stoicism

36:24 Existentialism

40:06 Myths

48:37 Chapter 3: The Psychology of Social Comparison

58:54 Downward Comparison

1:22:19 Chapter 4: Digital Technology and Social Comparison

1:44:20 Chapter 5: The 80/20 of Managing Comparison

1:57:40 Hidden Costs

1:58:48 Takeaways

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Comparing Yourself to Others, Solved

Friendship is the most important thing nobody talks about. In this episode of The SOLVED Podcast, Drew and I dig into what makes friendships work, why they fall apart, and why so many of us are struggling to build or keep them as we get older. We’re talking loneliness stats, Darwin’s confusion about cooperation, and the deep emotional mechanics behind being a good friend—and finding one.

From ancient philosophy to game theory, we break down why friendship isn’t just some social nicety—it’s a biological survival strategy. Plus: the modern forces slowly strangling our ability to connect, and exactly what to do about it. You’ll walk away with a clearer sense of what real friendship looks like, how to build it, and how to stop shooting yourself in the foot every time you try.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/friendship

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Chapters:

0:00 Introduction
7:52 Chapter 1: Friendship: an Evolutionary Puzzle
25:45 Chapter 2: What Is Friendship?
27:11 Friendship in the Great Religious Traditions
37:21 Modern Psychology's Definition of Friendship
49:02 Chapter 3: Your Brain On Friendship
1:03:34 The Neurobiology of Connection
1:22:48 Health Benefits of Friendship
1:33:11 Chapter 4: How to Make and Maintain Friendships
1:35:19 Proximity and Repeated Contact and Reciprocal Disclosure
1:53:51 Time investment (quantity and cadence)
1:58:15 Evidence-Based Strategies for Making Friends
2:07:46 Examples Of Making Friends
2:26:50 Chapter 5: How Friendship Changes Across the Lifespan
2:54:18 Chapter 6: Gender Dynamics in Friendships
3:09:39 Can Men And Women Be Friends?
3:16:39 Chapter 7: Toxic Friendships
3:17:41 Competitive Friendship
3:21:18 Codependency
3:34:45 Chapter 8: Why It's So Hard to Make Friends These Days
3:35:48 External Headwinds: Why Getting Together Is Hard
3:53:18 Internal Frictions: Why Staying Equal Feels Impossible
4:02:45 Chapter 9: Technology's Double-Edged Impact on Human Connection
4:11:19 Mark's LA Story
4:20:21 Chapter 10: The 80/20 of Friendship
4:30:33 Chapter 11: The Trade-Offs of Friendship

Produced by Drew Birnie
Research by Zenya Giatzoglou, Katherine Wei, & Gage Greer
Edited by SJ van Breda
Director of Photography Jess Choi
Thumbnail by Jonathan Sippel

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How to Make Friends as an Adult

What does it actually mean to live like a Stoic? In this wide-ranging conversation with bestselling author and modern Stoicism evangelist Ryan Holiday, we unpack the origins of Stoic philosophy, why it exploded during turbulent times in ancient Greece and Rome, and how its principles—like courage, temperance, justice, and wisdom—still apply in a world filled with chaos, anxiety, and uncertainty. From shipwrecked merchants to emperors journaling their fears, this episode explores why some of the most powerful figures in history turned to Stoicism not just for answers—but for survival.

We also dig into how Stoicism overlaps with modern psychology, why it’s gaining traction among young men, and whether its rising popularity is being misunderstood or misused. If you’ve ever wondered whether Stoicism means being emotionless, if it’s compatible with ambition, or if it actually makes you a better person, this episode is your one-stop masterclass.

Order Ryan Holiday’s new book, Wisdom Takes Work: https://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Takes-Work-Repeat-Virtues/dp/0593191730

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/stoicism

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Produced by Drew Birnie
Research by Zenya Giatzoglou, Katherine Wei, & Gage Greer
Edited by SJ van Breda
Director of Photography Jess Choi
Thumbnail by Jonathan Sippel

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:49 Setting the Scene: Ancient Greece After Alexander

06:44 The Story of Zeno: Founder of Stoicism

13:58 The Four Stoic Virtues

44:20 Virtue 1: Courage

53:17 Virtue 2: Temperance (Discipline)

1:05:01 Virtue 3: Justice

1:08:51 Virtue 4: Wisdom

1:25:51 Roman Conquest and the Spread of Stoicism

1:33:10 Cato the Younger: The Stoic Martyr

1:39:06 Seneca: The Conflicted Philosopher

1:55:50 Epictetus: The Slave Philosopher

2:07:28 Marcus Aurelius: The Philosopher Emperor

2:20:18 Stoicism Through History

2:32:45 Stoicism and Modern Psychology

2:41:09 The Modern Stoicism Revival

2:50:06 Final Thoughts and Recommendations
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A Comprehensive Guide to Stoicism (ft. Ryan Holiday)

Resilience isn’t about pretending you’re fine or never feeling pain—it’s about learning how to act in your best interest despite the pain. In this episode of Solved, we dive deep into the science, psychology, and real-life examples of resilience—from Ernest Shackleton’s crew surviving two years stranded in Antarctica to my own slightly insane decision to run an endurance race with basically no training. Spoiler: I didn’t die.

We cover it all: the biology of resilience, why some people are “dandelions” and thrive anywhere while others are “orchids” who need the right environment, the mindsets that let you push through hardship without losing your mind, and why humor and community might secretly be your best survival tools. And of course, we deliver the real, practical, evidence-based strategies you can actually apply when life inevitably decides to kick you in the teeth.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like you can’t take one more setback, this episode is for you. And if you’re one of those psychos who enjoys doing hard sh*t just to see what you’re made of… well, you’ll feel right at home here.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/resilience

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

04:44 Chapter 1: Reframing Resilience — Definitions & Misconceptions

13:11 The Word That Started It All

16:30 Bounce Forward, Not Back

23:50 Chapter 2: Developmental and Biological Foundations of Resilience

29:26 The Evolutionary Puzzle

38:54 Chapter 3: Biological & Physiological Foundations

44:45 Training Your Brain to Be More Resilient

48:43 The HPA Axis: Our Central Stress Response System

51:19 Heart Rate Variability: The Resilience Rhythm

54:32 Physiological Interventions

1:00:07 Gut-Brain Axis

1:17:17 Chapter 4: Psychological, Philosophical & Evidence-Based Frameworks

1:20:19 The 5 Mindsets of Resilience

1:21:46 Mindset #1: Anything Is Possible

1:38:22 Mindset #2: Stories Are Just Stories

1:44:16 MIndset #3: Focus on What You Control

1:58:55 Mindset #4: Make It Fun

2:10:34 Mindset #5: Assume a Resilient Identity

2:20:21 Pheidippides

2:27:00 Chapter 5: Sociocultural & Community Dimensions

2:37:40 Social Connection and Resilience: Why Strong People Don't Go It Alone

2:45:33 Blitz Spirit: Myth vs Reality

2:48:23 How to Build Your Resilient Circle

2:57:28 Chapter 6: The 80/20 of Becoming More Resilient

3:11:36 The Hidden Costs of Resilience

3:22:25 What We Learned

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How to Become Resilient

Chances are, there’s something in your life you feel deeply ashamed about—something you’ve never told anyone, something you can’t even admit to yourself. In this episode, we go deep into the emotion we all experience but almost no one wants to talk about: shame. Where it comes from, why it’s so powerful, how it screws up our lives—and more importantly, how to deal with it.

We cover the biology of shame, the psychology, the evolutionary roots, and how modern life (especially the internet) completely messes with our shame systems. We talk about healthy vs. toxic shame, how it shows up in addiction, relationships, perfectionism, and self-sabotage, and why most of us either try to hide from it or end up being controlled by it. You’ll also hear from members of my team about how shame shaped their lives in surprising ways.

As always, this episode is brutally honest, deeply researched, and sprinkled with a few bad jokes. But more than anything, I hope it gives you the awareness—and the tools—to start facing whatever it is you’ve been avoiding. Because you can’t outrun your shame. But you can learn to live with it.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/shame

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Chapters
00:00:00 Introduction
00:04:35 Chapter 1: Shame's Hidden Architecture
00:14:38 Chapter 2: Key Definitions
00:18:32 Distinguishing Shame from Guilt
00:20:49 State Shame vs. Trait Shame
00:21:47 Shame vs. Embarrassment and Humiliation
00:24:03 Shame, Trauma, and their Interrelationship
00:25:14 Chapter 3: The Neurobiology of Shame
00:29:56 The Shame Spiral
00:36:04 The Learning Paradox of Shame
00:44:12 Chapter 4: The Shame Compass
00:47:33 Personal Experiences with Shame
00:49:21 Workaholism as a Coping Mechanism
00:59:13 The Allure of Shamelessness
01:01:15 Chapter 5: Individual, Familial, & Cultural Sources of Shame
01:11:05 Geographical Impact on Shame
01:13:08 Cultural Values and Shame
01:14:35 How the Greater Culture Shapes Shame
01:26:12 Chapter 6: Digital Technology & Shame 2.0
01:28:02 The Digital Divide
01:31:05 The Relationship Between Technology and Anxiety
01:33:55 Protection Strategies
01:39:21 Chapter 7: Developmental Stages of Shame
01:40:19 Understanding the Origin of Shame
01:42:57 The Role of Parenting in Shame Development
01:56:49 Chapter 8: How Therapy Transformed Our Understanding of Shame
02:01:06 Carl Rogers and the Safety Revolution
02:07:31 Albert Ellis and the Cognitive Revolution
02:11:58 The Influence of Albert Ellis and Carl Rogers
02:13:31 The Emergence of Reparenting and Inner Child Work
02:17:18 The Rise of Internal Family System
02:20:24 Brene Brown's Work on Shame
02:27:59 Chapter 9: Tools to Address Your Shame
02:40:19 Stoic Principles for Perspective
02:47:05 Perspective Shifting Techniques
02:58:26 Chapter 10: Tuning Your Shame System
03:10:39 Recognizing Unsustainable Shame Patterns
03:16:28 Kristen Neff's Self-Compassion Framework
03:25:33 Understanding Shame as Obsession and Resentment
03:29:53 Overcoming Shame and Personal Growth
03:31:39 Takeaways fr...
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How to Let Go of Your Shame

Everyone’s obsessed with being happy—but what if that obsession is the very thing making us miserable? In this episode of Solved, Drew and I explore what actually makes us feel good—and why most of us are chasing it in all the wrong ways.

We unpack what philosophers like Aristotle and the Buddha got right thousands of years ago—and how modern science is just now catching up. We talk about hedonic vs. eudaimonic happiness, why more money and status don’t necessarily move the needle, and why most self-help advice completely misses the point. Happiness isn’t something you get. It’s a side effect of doing the right things for the right reasons.

So, if you're tired of chasing "more" and ready to actually feel a little less miserable, this one’s for you.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/happiness

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Chapters:

0:00 Introduction

10:42 Chapter 1: The Origins of Human Happiness

11:04 Hedonia vs Eudaimonia

15:11 Epicureanism

23:20 Eastern Perspectives

27:15 Modern Happiness Research

29:30 Chapter 2: The WEIRD Problem: When Happiness Research Goes West

40:47 Chapter 3: The Three Components of Happiness

46:44 Hedonic Adaptation

59:53 Chapter 4: What Does—and Doesn't—Make Us Happy

1:00:35 Drugs and Alcohol

1:07:23 Sex

1:15:09 Money

1:23:10 Fame and Status

1:37:26 Geography and Environment

1:39:51 Love and Relationships

1:41:19 Friendships

1:44:04 Having Children

1:49:10 The Experiencing vs. Remembering Self

1:52:53 Chapter 5: Baseline vs. Circumstantial vs. Intentional Happiness

1:53:35 Genetics

1:59:50 Circumstances

2:02:16 Intentional Actions

2:06:13 Relationships

2:10:51 Gratitude

2:13:13 Altruism

2:18:47 Experiences vs. Stuff

2:22:12 Implementing Intentional Happiness

2:24:21 Chapter 6: Don't Pursue Happiness; Remove Unhappiness 

2:29:05 Social Comparison

2:31:30 Maximizers vs. Satisficers

2:34:19 Chapter 7: How Happiness Changes Across the Lifespan

2:51:44 Chapter 8: Happiness Myths

3:04:47 Chapter 9: The 80/20 Guide to Happiness 

3:16:22 Lessons Learned 
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How To Finally Let Yourself Be Happy

What are emotions? Why do we feel anything at all? And more importantly — can we actually get better at feeling?

In this episode, Drew and I dive headfirst into what might be the hardest question in all of psychology: what the actual f**k are emotions? We break down the biology, neuroscience, evolution, culture, and even language that shape how we feel — and why we often don’t understand what the hell is going on inside us. From ancient philosophy to brain scans, this is a deep (and occasionally weird) look into the emotional chaos that makes us human.

We unpack everything from the origins of emotional intelligence (spoiler: it might be BS) to the science of emotional regulation, attachment styles, and the sneaky ways your culture wires your emotional defaults. Along the way, we explore why some relationships make you feel like a better person while others drain the life out of you, and how trauma, genetics, and childhood with your ability to keep it together.

But this episode isn’t just about understanding emotions — it’s about learning how to work with them. And we give you a full emotional toolkit: a set of evidence-based tools to help you manage your emotions, build better relationships, feel more motivated, and yes — even feel more confident in yourself in the process.

We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/emotions

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Chapters:

0:00:00 Introduction

0:04:47 Chapter 1: What Are Emotions?

0:14:04 The Emotional Brain

0:22:03 Neurotransmitters

0:34:25 Evolution of Emotions

0:39:53 How Life Experiences Shape Emotional Regulation

0:48:41 Conclusion on What are Emotions

0:49:45 Chapter 2: How Culture Influences Our Emotions

0:55:44 Vietnam Bike Story

1:00:05 Your Culture Trains You to Want Certain Feelings

1:06:00 Culture Decides Whether Suppression is a Superpower or a Liability

1:07:56 Paradox of Emotional Conformity

1:16:36 How Language Shapes What You Feel

1:29:23 Emotional Complexity

1:36:25 Your Emotions Are Social Currency

1:43:00 Conclusion to Culture defines our emotions

1:44:08 Chapter 3: Historical and Philosophical Traditions on Emotions

1:57:21 Modern Culture

1:59:00 Chapter 4: The Four Schools of Emotional Regulation

2:00:56 The Heart

2:08:55 The Head

2:18:37 The Soul

2:28:50 The Body

2:36:23 The Integrated Toolkit

2:48:25 Chapter 5: Brilliant or Bullshit: Emotional Intelligence

2:57:31 Chapter 6: Relationships and Emotional Regulation

3:09:54 Attachment Theory

3:27:29 Toxic Relationship

3:36:49 Building Emotional Compatibility

3:51:24 Conclusion Relationships

3:57:24 Chapter 7: 80/20

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How to Manage Your Emotions

In this second episode of Solved, Drew and I go deep into the psychology, history, and science of procrastination. From Plato and Aristotle to Freud and modern research, we break down why we delay the things that matter most—and how to actually stop.This isn't a “just set a timer” productivity talk. We’re diving deep into shame, identity, perfectionism, culture, and why procrastination is ultimately a *skill issue*, not a moral failure. We cover things like:- How humans have thought about putting things off for over 2000 years- The real reason you avoid the most important tasks in your life- Why “I work better under pressure” is (usually) BS- Why self-compassion is actually more motivating than guilt- Tons of practical, research-backed strategies you can start using todayAnd much, much, much more.

We also put together a free companion guide with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here : https://solvedpodcast.com/procrastination

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:05 Episode Roadmap

08:20 What exactly is procrastination?

15:50 Plato's Thoughts on Procrastination

24:07 The Buddhist & Confucian Views on Procrastination

26:19 ﻿﻿Aristotle's Take on Procrastination

33:50 ﻿﻿Christianity and Procrastination

46:53 ﻿﻿Self-Compassion and Procrastination

58:45 ﻿﻿The Reformation and Procrastination

1:04:25 Freud's Influence on Psychology

1:06:40 Pleasure Principle and Reality Principle

1:08:13 Id, Ego, and Superego

1:10:26 Defense Mechanisms

1:17:20 ﻿﻿Adopting Habits as Identity

1:23:05 The Influence of Childhood and Parenting on Procrastination

1:33:42 Behaviorism

1:41:21 Environmental Design

1:46:10 ﻿﻿Thriving Under Pressure: A Critique

1:52:10 ﻿﻿Expectation, Pressure, and Procrastination

1:54:06 ﻿﻿Critique of Behaviorism

1:59:20 Time Management

2:07:33 ﻿﻿Knowledge vs Emotion in Procrastination

2:16:43 Mark and Drew's Personal Productivity Systems

2:20:37 ﻿﻿Deep Work and Task Management

2:23:12 ﻿﻿Productivity System for ADHD

2:29:26 ﻿﻿Productive Procrastination

2:34:22 ﻿﻿Importance of Task Completion

2:36:51 Existentialism and Purpose

2:44:21 ﻿﻿Purpose and Motivation

2:53:40 Temporal Motivation Theory

2:57:39 ﻿﻿Limitations of Temporal Motivation Theory

2:59:22 ﻿﻿The Role of Technology in Procrastination

3:07:10 ﻿﻿...
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How to Stop Procrastinating

Welcome to the first episode of the Solved Podcast. Today, we are solving your values.

Over eight years ago, I wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck—a book that, underneath all the swearing and irreverence, was really about one thing: values. What do you care about? What’s actually worth your time, your energy, your life?

So in this kickoff episode of SOLVED, Drew and I are going deep into why your values are the foundation of everything—your happiness, your mental health, your relationships, your sense of meaning—and why so many of us today feel so lost.

We break down the difference between chasing cheap dopamine hits and building real fulfillment, why not all values are created equal, how to figure out what your true values are, how to change your values, how to start living out your values more fully, and how values silently shape your decisions and relationships every day. If you’ve ever felt stuck, directionless, or like you’re living someone else’s life, this episode is the wake-up call you need. It’s time to stop drifting through life and start giving a fck about the right things. Forget the rest.

Welcome to SOLVED.

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Chapters

00:00 Welcome to SOLVED

07:47 Episode Roadmap

09:31 CHAPTER 1: What are Values?

10:26 Characteristics of Values

14:23 Values vs. Psychological Needs vs. Preferences

23:06 Schwartz's Values Wheel

30:36 Instrumental and Terminal Values

32:15 Hierarchy of Values

38:35 Values Conflict

42:35 Carol Ryff's Six Dimensions of Psychological Well-being

57:01 Aristotle's Golden Mean as Virtue

1:05:01 CHAPTER 2: Values and Your Relationships

1:22:56 The Clash of Values in Relationships

1:30:29 Identifying and Navigating Values in Relationships

1:34:40 Understanding Compatibility Through Values

1:37:25 CHAPTER 3: Where Do Values Come From?

1:38:20 Margaret Mead's Cultural Relativism

1:47:55 Mary Douglas's and the Grid-Group Framework

1:56:20 Jonathan Haidt's Moral Foundations Theory

2:09:26 The Allegory of the Taco Truck

2:14:34 CHAPTER 4: Identifying Your Core Values

2:16:58 Thought Experiments to Find Your Values

2:32:16 The Instrumental Value of Golf

2:41:45 The Role of Trauma in Value Change

2:48:53 CHAPTER 5: How to Change Your Values

2:50:44 Kazimierz Dabrowski and Positive Disintegration

3:03:22 On Cults and Cognitive Dissonance

3:16:26 Self-Confrontation and Value Change

3:18:34 Charlie Munger's Maxim: Incentives and Behavior

3:21:56 CHAPTER 6: Lessons and Takeaways

3:36:30 T...
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How to Find and Live by Your Values

There are certain areas in life where trying harder only makes things worse. Trying to prove how likable and confident you are only makes you feel more unlikable and less confident. Trying to make someone love you only makes you feel more unlovable.
The solution to this conundrum is what’s known as “The Backwards Law”.
Simply put, The Backwards law states that desiring a positive experience is itself a negative experience, while accepting a negative experience is a positive experience.
In this episode, Drew and I talk about five areas of life where doing less can actually reap massive benefits.
Enjoy.
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The Backwards Law: How to Get More by Doing Less

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