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It's Not You and It's Not Me: How break-ups Reveal the Love of our Life

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2H 22min
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English
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Personal Development

"Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it and embrace them."

Rumi

Author and teacher Clare Dimond, spends her life exploring how our idea of ourselves, reality and other people are creations of our beliefs and conditioning.

One day, after a wonderfully romantic weekend, a man she thought she had fallen in love with told her, 'I haven't met anyone yet.'

She uses the intensity of her reaction to this as the starting point in a book about what is revealed in our responses to what other people say and do.

It is her most personal of her eight books to date as she explores how reality is always a projection from within and as such offers a continual space for healing and integrating the wounds and losses of our past.

Although on the surface it is about dating, the book is relevant to all relationships and interactions in which we feel vulnerable, in which there is potential for rejection and exclusion.

And it is about how, ultimately, these moments are the gateway to a profound freedom, stability and love that is beyond our wildest dreams…

© 2024 Clare Dimond (Audiobook): 9798882444623

Release date

Audiobook: 6 April 2024

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